Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hello everyone, I hope that you are all doing well this weekend. Do any of you feel lonelier on a holiday like today, Father's Day??? My own father is not in my life and has not been for years. He is not well mentally and I choose not to have that kind of chaos in my life. Since many of us do not have many friends or none at all, and may not even have much family, some of us may feel lonelier on days where you are supposed to be with family and friends. I have other family that I am not close to, so the only people I deal with daily are my mom and son. While I am thankful for my mom and especially my son, I still feel lonely. I'm not comfortable speaking to my mom about certain things and my son is only 2; he is my child, not my BFF.
I knew that breaking up with my ex last year would cause me to feel more loneliness even though I was still lonely with him. I thought about calling him to see how he is doing, but he is still angry that I left him. I was just not willing to spend the rest of my life with a sociopath, so I had to walk away for my sanity, safety, and my own health. I think we all wish this feeling of loneliness did not exist, I know I do. No matter how many people you have in your life, you can still feel incredibly lonely. So every time I get lonelier and I want to contact my ex or someone else from my past, I remind myself of why I cut them out of my life to begin with. I remember that I deserve better and that I am worthy of being treated well, NOT being treated like trash in a landfill. I also remember that I have to be an example to my son. He is growing and developing and he does not need to see me with a revolving door of abusive bum losers. His safety and happiness are more important than my feelings!
So I just wanted to tell everyone to hang in there, it will get better eventually, but please remember to do what is best for you and your heart. Being miserable with someone to avoid being lonely or alone is just not worth it. I'll take being lonely over being in an unhealthy or dangerous situation with a POS any day of the week.
Happy Father's Day to all the amazing fathers out there!
God bless.
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I arrived at college like 5 weeks ago or so. But I still have 0 friends and whenever I go to the cafeteria and my hiding place is taken I can only think about how much they’re all judging me, whether they are or not. My brain just tells me I’m a jerk, I’m fat for eating so much (even today when it was likely my only meal for the day... so that seems silly but other people don’t know...
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Hello All, Thank you for letting me share and being a part of this group. It seems silly, but for the first time in my life I feel alone, I feel a lot of loneliness. I have the blessing of my Faith, and I know God is with me every day, I speak with my mother every day as well, and even have my two dogs to spend time with each day. At the same time, I'm going through a legal separation (second...
But I just take it one day at a time though. The loneliness and depression can get to me, but I'm hanging in there. I do need a change though. I've been thinking about moving and just starting over somewhere but I don't want to move away again without a job, I did that before and the result was a lot of debt! Being lonely is very tough, but I'm just trying to get past it all and work on myself slowly but surely. Even when I do have other people in my life, I'm still lonely or in a toxic situation so I just cut out the toxic people and it does feel better but lonelier. Nothing I can do about that much I guess, I just don't want anyone in my life that doesn't really want to be there or that doesn't genuinely care about me. I don't want to have to settle for some bum out of the loneliness I feel, I did that for years and it only led to bad situations and heartache. I just don't want to go back to that life, so many bad relationship decisions and so much unhappiness. Anyway, I will be okay, at least I hope to be :). When I get really down and lonely, I think of my son, he needs me. He's my unexpected little miracle. Two and half years later and it's still a shock somewhat that I'm a mum :)!
While I am not a stick in the mud, I realize that the media gets things all jacked up and we end up
hyperfocusing on these days, buying gifts, cooking etc...I wish that these holidays were toned down. I guess that they can be if we and those around us choose to decrease of expectations and continue to take care of ourselves.