Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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I’m So Lonely

searchingforbalance
searchingforbalance

I’m so, so lonely. I have a wonderful family, but they have friends and can’t be around me all the time, you know? I have a few friends, but they’ve all grown apart from me and found new friends, especially since they all went to college and I’ve been spending this year at home, trying to get a handle on my depression. I’m also an introverted person, and I let that plus my anxiety in social situations get in the way of meeting new people. I’m so lonely and just crave human connection that’s not shallow or fake or only over text, you know? Humans probably aren’t meant to feel lonely for long periods of time. I just want to be spending time in the same room as at least one other person who isn’t required to be with me (aka family haha). I also need to figure out how to treat myself with respect before I can treat others with respect because I’m really struggling with self worth. But I feel like that’s going to take ages, and I don’t want to wait that long to be with someone. I don’t know if anyone else has felt similarly? Probably, since we are in a “loneliness group” lol.

porterccc
porterccc
I think we all go through phases of loneliness, some worse or longer then others. Growing up, I was considered extremely smart, into technology and running my own business by the time I was 14. Socially, however, I did no find much success until later. My interests were so dissimilar to others in the rural area that I simply had no way to connect with them. The things that they cared about held no interest to me. I was always focused on the big picture, therefore blind to popular culture, movies, songs, e.t.c. Lacking these and focusing on academics left me in a position where I had no like minded peers to connect with. Eventually, I started to realize that people needed my skills and input, and this gave me a better feeling of self-worth.

I challenge you to think about ways that you can change the script. How can we turn low self respect into self love and confidence? Try replying with a few of your interests, and things that you believe you are talented at :)
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I remember when my wife and best friend of 24 years divorced me, I was terrified of being alone. All through the years, I had lived my life through her and I didn't even know who I was anymore.

So after the initial shock of being alone, wore off, I began to treat every new day like a new adventure and I would find little things that made me happy. I planted a small garden for the first time in 25 years, I did some small projects around my house and planted some flowers, I gave myself alot of positive affirmations and talked to myself alot.

Getting to know who I really am is an ongoing process which I am beginning to enjoy. The more I look, the more I see God. There is a saying, "Blessed are they who see the Divine in everything."

God Bless
Ava142
Ava142
It's a hard one because sometimes loneliness is imperceptible. It can be subtle and no less dangerous for it. There's a lot we can say about how secular society endeavours to put a lid on self expression and that can lead to a dissonance in ourselves because there's always contradictions in life. We feel we have to live up to an impossible standard growing up or just life in general. The pressure mounts and you feel that your persona is covering a deeper hurt, and some individuals are just not emotionally available enough to give you the connection you crave it's good you can at least find some connection here I know what it's like to be lonely and I have always been lonely throughout my life. My advice to you is to find the right people and use your gut instinct. Everyone has something unique to share and to live life their way. Be brave and even if it's just one dream it's worth exploring who you authentically are. God bless
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