I'm not sure if this is the right place for my topic. My nephew came to spend the night with his sister, he lives with his dad. My niece has lived with us since my sister was killed in a car accident. My husband was teasing my nephew, making fun of his long hair and pulling on it. My nephew started crying and yelled that it hurt. Then my husband started making fun of him for crying, telling him to go home that he didn't want him to come over anymore. I quietly told him to stop saying that and he blew up on me. Somehow I knew that would happen. My husband proceeded to tell me how he hated when "other people" came to the house and how he hates having other peoples kids around. Including my niece who thankfully was at church during all of this. He told me he has done his time with those kids (my sister's) and he doesn't want to do it any more. He hates my family, thinks my parents are stupid and dumb people. After a bunch of yelling and accusing and finger-pointing I guess we've decided to end it all. In the middle of the argument he did say that he was tired of seeing my nephew unkempt, skinny and without manners. When he tries to make things better by teasing him all he can do is cry and he hates that. I knew that was the whole problem. My husband thinks that teasing and humiliating is in fun, so when people get upset he hates them and calls them weird or stupid. Anyway, now he's writing down dates so he can figure how much he has to pay me back so I have nothing to hold over him later. Now, I'm struggling with the children thing. If we split, my kids are for sure going to blame my niece. If I try to stay for the kids, send my niece to my parents house....what is that saying to my niece. I'm so angry at this situation. I don't know what the right thing to do is. And, now I'm feeling completely guilty trying to figure out if this is my over-reaction to begin with. I'm thinking its my fault. I'm usually pretty good at keeping my mouth shut in these situations because I've been through them before. Sorry for the lengthy post.
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