I am about to be married to my best friend in about 30 days. Up until a week ago, I found out the hairdresser my mom has used for a good 15 years has recently changed...she is now a part of a church that is very religious. Once she got her new hair place she put crosses up everywhere and talks about how God has blessed her with this place and she prayed over my mom's hands the last time she was in because she had surgery on them. Now I am completely fine with someone being religious but I felt extremely awkward when she was doing my hair. It was understood I was gay but she was doing a trial for my hair and makeup for my wedding and she did not mention a single thing about my wedding, my dress nothing! I decided to open up by saying "so you met Kelley last week" (my fiancé drove my mom to her appointment because of her surgery). All she could say was yes and closed her eyes. She also allotted maybe 30 minutes for my appointment. I brought my makeup because that's what you do for a trial...she said you'll be fine for that day. Really i wanted to be done today like I was leaving for my wedding from there. Which wasn't the case at all. She did not make it a big deal and put my hair up and only did half my head and said so the other side would look like that as well....it just felt rushed and half assed. And I really did not like the tension from her. Yes I'm gay but don't just do my hair half assed and don't neglect to do my makeup till the day of the wedding. I did not feel comfortable and if she isn't going to make my wedding day exciting ...or mention my marriage why should I put up with her lack of respect and kindness for one of the biggest days of my life. I'll be nervous enough and I don't need to be dealing with her tension of working with a gay woman and not being comfortable. It was like you could cut the tension with a knife. I might try to go to a hair salon a town away from where I'm getting married with my maid of honor where they are open and comfortable with my sexuality and treat me with respect. My mom will be crushed and will feel rushed but I'll make it work somehow. I just need to feel comfortable and relaxed and won't be at the place I went to today. I will pay my mom for the $25 trial she graciously paid for today as to not make matters worse. I know she will be pissed. I just didn't like the hairdressers attitude an lack of support. It's one thing to have an opinion but a real professional would set her opinion aside and do the job right. And some may feel I'm very judgmental of her but Ive known her for a long time and I've grown and changed but she has also. She isn't open to people like she used to be. She was very excited for me when I got my hair done for my brothers wedding....she asked all these questions...today I went in and she asked me about work, where I'm living and that was it. Then it was awkward silence the rest of e time. At the end is when I brought up meeting Kelley...she just said yes and closed her eyes and we left....it just hurts to see how closed minded and closed hearted she is.....I'm thankful to be at a venue that is gay friendly. Comparing her to our DJ for the wedding .... You could tell he had never done a gay wedding before but was professional and you couldn't tell his opinion. He was professional and put his opinion aside. We could of gone with other ppl but he is a genuinely nice person and was open to working with us. He asked if he could use a photo of us for his ads. There is a big difference between how professionally he was and how unprofessional she was... I'm gonna try to get an appointment with my old hairdresser who is open with my sexuality and who isn't weird about asking about my fiancé and where we are getting married....I know my mom will be saddened but I can't overlook her negative thoughts and feelings toward my sexuality.
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