Not the "honey" and "sweetie" stuff, but if you have to introduce your #1 to someone else, do you say, "This is my..." girlfriend? partner? wife? significant other? something else? Just curious. I myself feel at 3 years, very close, and we have been living together as a family for quite some time now, that "girlfriend" implies some kind of trial period and I feel we are way past that. "significant other" is just way too long and awkward. I've used "partner" often. It's a pretty decent one, although still seems a bit standoffish and ambiguous to me. I actually like, (is this corny of me or what?), "wife" at this point because it speaks of our commitment to each other but gives a pretty clear message to others that, "No, she is not my roommate, yes we are lesbians, get over it.", and also it can help send the message that other people's advances aren't welcome. BUT, we are not legally unified at this point, (WA recently passed a domestic partnership law), because we haven't the money and resources for her divorce from someone that she hasn't even laid eyes on in years and years so the legality of the marriage is more of a technicality. The other problem I run into sometimes is that I can become hesitant about saying, "wife" to new people because straight people sometimes get stunned or stutter about it.
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