In my case I don't think so. My ex denied being an alcoholic, verbally abusing me and our kids and having someone else while we were still married and trying to work things out. When you deny there are problems you certainly will not apologize for them.

getting a selfish, egotistical, on and on person to admit to:
A. being wrong
B. breaking up a family
C. realized you were the best thing since sliced bread
D. wish you'd forgive them for all their wrong doings, on and on...
You might have a better chance of getting hit by an asteroid or sucked up in a tornado.
Really, what would it matter? Would it make any difference to you? Would you magically forget all their wrongdoings and let them run back into your arms?
In any instance there's a few things that makes people sh*t on other people.
One is called narcissism. If your ex to be is like half the ones out there, then chances are they have it or a form of it.
There's also other underlying emotional issues that someone who does soemthing so downright mean to another human being that they are oblivious to ANYTHING they did, it HAS to be all your fault.
So, the answer in my opinion is, you're better off watching paint dry than getting an apology. Just keep painting, then when it dries, start all over again.
this is a tough transition but really YOU have to seek forgiveness in your heart for all the wrongdoing that's been caused to you.
Not getting religious, but telling a story as taking a last breath, Jesus did say to God "Father, forgive them for they don't know what they've done." Or some variation of that without getting out a bible.
Seek forgiveness, TRUE forgiveness and you'll realize in time that nothing had been done to you, that it really was the only thing this person could ever know how to do.
It is a tough road, and I've jumped into the ditch a few times myself but soon enough, the bumps turn into smooth patches on the road of life.

Your post is something we all struggle with at some point in our divorce process. I really like Middleofthe... response. Its so true. Maybe they will regret it but you will never hear an apology. Unless they all of a sudden seek counseling or turn to god. I still struggle with wanting an apology from my ex or "Karma" to catch up with him but I'm only hurting myself. I had a dream recently in which I was telling off my ex but every step of the way he twisted it like he always does to make me seem stupid and he was indifferent. When I woke up I was still so angry. I realize that this anger is mine and mine alone. I am really striving to reach the enlightenment that middleofthe... seems to have found. Really we do have to let it go. These people have some serious issues or we would not have gone through what we went through. We have to worry only of ourselves and continue to create the best life possible for us and our children. We have to stop living for the other person and what they will think or do and just live for ourselves.

I don't believe my ex will ever have any remorse for any of his actions. I'm sure he doesn't feel any repsonsibility for anything he's done....that is just the way he is....a selfish, uncaring SOB.....he's sadly just like his father, and his mother even told me that....too bad I didn't take that as a warning to stay away from him.....but live and learn....he's never been held accountable for his actions, why would the divorce be any different....but he does have plenty of time to think now.....

yes because she will never find love like mine she will see one day that i did love her with all of my heart and how she hurt me was wrong and one day she may want me back and i will always love her not because im in love with her any more but because she is the mama to my little love sam and i did hate her but now she has her on life and i have mine The past cannot be changed,
the future is still in your power.

I guess I'm the odd one here. I have heard all these things from my ex. Many times she has told me how sorry she is, how she regrets breaking up our family, what a great man I am, etc. I truly believe her because she has changed a lot in the past year with the help of counseling. She wasn't herself when we went through our breakup and divorce. The hard part for me is not jumping back into a relationship with her. I can see that I could have back all the security and comfort I once had in our family home. But I feel like this all happened for a reason and in a way she gave me my life back; did me a favor. I feel sorry for her.

So, I don't think it matters if you do get an apology. Either way you move on with your life. In my case all the apologies in the world won't make me trust her again, even though I believe she's sincere. Sometimes I think it would be easier to hate my ex than to be in this compassionate "friend" zone I'm in.

My ex is an narcissistic alcoholic in denial who has never taken responsibility for any of his actions. The only time he ever apologized was to get what he wanted and even then it was a "Sorry for my part in that." He never admitted what his part was. If past behavior is, in fact, the best predictor of future behavior, then I really doubt it.

At this point it really doesn't matter because I am really working on letting go of wanting an apology. I just wish I could let go of feeling so hurt.

In my case; nope! The ex has his girlfriend now; the house; the furniture; and his dog.
He could care less because he's a selfish man!

I know in the case with my ex, as long as (a) he continues to believe his delusions over the reasons why we broke up and (b) he's under the influence of his mother, I really don't expect to see any remorse or sorrow over what he's done not only to myself but my family as well.

I often wonder how he sleeps at night...

I doubt it for me. My ex wasn't happy anymore with me and wanted out of the marriage. He didn't want to work things out. I don't know if I could trust him anymore. Something changed him. He doesn't even talk to me. Middle and 34hope have a good point.

My ex and his so called "friend" denied the affair and still do to this day. He moved in with her immediately.

I know I will never get an apology for any of what he has done to me mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. He just does not care and since he has someone else, his "friend", he will never care.

Almost three years later he calls me fat, ugly, stupid, loser, can't find a date, etc. He says it all but one day his girlfriend will not be there and I am sure his tune will change.

I think they all regret it but their pride want let them admit it. The greatest revenge you can have on the person who hurt and betrayed you is to be HAPPY and Fullfilled with who you ARE! They want and expect us to sit around crying and mourning them. I had that time but now I am moving on UP!