
Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.

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I have been wondering. Once all the hatered and dark clouds pass and we have moved on and are again happy and successful. Do you thing the ex spouses will ever look back and regret the betrayal, lies, infidelity, and otherwise breaking up the family? Do you think they will ever feel remorse or sorrow for the pain they have inflicted and family they destroyed. I wonder if I will ever get an appology, or just another restraining order.
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A. being wrong
B. breaking up a family
C. realized you were the best thing since sliced bread
D. wish you'd forgive them for all their wrong doings, on and on...
You might have a better chance of getting hit by an asteroid or sucked up in a tornado.
Really, what would it matter? Would it make any difference to you? Would you magically forget all their wrongdoings and let them run back into your arms?
In any instance there's a few things that makes people sh*t on other people.
One is called narcissism. If your ex to be is like half the ones out there, then chances are they have it or a form of it.
There's also other underlying emotional issues that someone who does soemthing so downright mean to another human being that they are oblivious to ANYTHING they did, it HAS to be all your fault.
So, the answer in my opinion is, you're better off watching paint dry than getting an apology. Just keep painting, then when it dries, start all over again.
this is a tough transition but really YOU have to seek forgiveness in your heart for all the wrongdoing that's been caused to you.
Not getting religious, but telling a story as taking a last breath, Jesus did say to God "Father, forgive them for they don't know what they've done." Or some variation of that without getting out a bible.
Seek forgiveness, TRUE forgiveness and you'll realize in time that nothing had been done to you, that it really was the only thing this person could ever know how to do.
It is a tough road, and I've jumped into the ditch a few times myself but soon enough, the bumps turn into smooth patches on the road of life.
the future is still in your power.
So, I don't think it matters if you do get an apology. Either way you move on with your life. In my case all the apologies in the world won't make me trust her again, even though I believe she's sincere. Sometimes I think it would be easier to hate my ex than to be in this compassionate "friend" zone I'm in.
At this point it really doesn't matter because I am really working on letting go of wanting an apology. I just wish I could let go of feeling so hurt.
He could care less because he's a selfish man!
I often wonder how he sleeps at night...
I know I will never get an apology for any of what he has done to me mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. He just does not care and since he has someone else, his "friend", he will never care.
Almost three years later he calls me fat, ugly, stupid, loser, can't find a date, etc. He says it all but one day his girlfriend will not be there and I am sure his tune will change.