I was married 25 yrs to the "boy next door" who moved there in 5th grade. in 2003 when i had my 2nd and last child i got sick and was bedbound at times. i think this was a contributing factor. Then we hit some stressful experiences which i think also contributed. we started a construction business with my inheritance $ but he ran it. in 2005 we were doing well so he wanted to build us a new house so he did. then hurricane katrina came and luckily our houses weren't damaged but it was distressing. one day in 2005 a police came to my door with divorce papers....it was a shock. he literally threw up his hands and walked away from it all. we had 7 spec homes under construction and one custom home and we still had our old home which without my knowledge i learned later he had no intention of selling it because the kids and i would have to move back there when the new house was repo'd. i don't know how long he had been planning this. his attitude was vindictive like i had done something to deserve the wrath he was bringing down on me. all total we lost a 500,000 home, 270,000 home, 43,000 vehicle that was a few payments away from being paid off. but his mission was to destroy me. the total $ loss was 2.8 million and my loss much more than that. he has left me with nothing...literally no resources to even start over with. i became severely depressed and couldn't function and even had hallucinations and insomnia....he had me committed to a mental hospital 5x and got custody of the kids. they are my only reason for living. i took my vows seriously - till death do we part and it will be that way - i'm not suicidal regardless of thoughts but it will be the result of my mental distress on my physical condition. i am deteriorating by the day - literally. i can't pull myself out of it. i don't want to start over not to mention he has made it almost impossible to start over even if i wanted to. i read an excellent book called CRAZY TIME and i think it said it takes 5 yrs to get over divorce and its almost identical to death of a spouse. she said additional time may be added for things such as loss of finances, custody etc......i'm convinced i will not survive this and the waiting is misery. my feelings and experience is exactly like Brett described.
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