After 11 1/2 years of marriage I am now going through a divorce. My soon to be ex has serious mental issues that prevented him from ever really being an active role as a husband and father and I was more of a mommy to him. He is behaving like that of a 17 yr old and is going to 35 this year. In the height of his depression issues last Dec he started talking to other women at work, although he did this quite often in our time together. He is now dating a 20 yr old student he met in an emt class he teaches at work. I am a stay at home mom trying to grow a small ome based business that was my dream after supproting him in all his career decisions all this time. I have minimal income and he has just up and left me and our 3 kids so he can be happy with this girl. I am not worried about him and the girl dating, as I said this divorce was long overdue. I am having a harder time dealin with the way he is treating our kids and how he is handling the situation. I asked him to move out at the beginning of April after being physical to me and emotionally abusive. He flaunted the relationship with this new girl in our home where her slept on a sofa in our sunroom after moving out of our bedroom. He acted like a child renting a room and completely ignored the kids our anyhting that went on in the home while he was here. He started living as if he was single from the very beginning and that was what triggered me asking him to go stay at his grandparents house. He did and once he did his childliek behaviors really kicked in. I am a stay ay home mom so what income I had started to make always went into my business and getting supplies for it. He decided upon moving that I should pay bills I never paid, and take care of everything like food, cell phone and counseling when my income wasn't there to do it. IN the meantime, he opened a new bank acocunt so he could keep all his money to himself and wine and dine this new girl while abandoning me and the kids. He has yet to give me a dime since the end of march and my business is now failing due tthis. I am supporting my kids on what little money came in and neglecting orders to do so. I am sickened that my dream is slipping away. My biggest problem in the divorce is that this man has not called his kids or seen them more than 3 times in 54 days. How does a dad do that to their child? He acts like they don't even exist. He is so busy buying toys like rims on his car, watches, clothes, shoes, and sunglasses that he can't behave like a grown man. I am paying off a cable bill he ran up to $600 before he left just to hope my business will thrive still. I am am out of resources and I have to wait another 4 weeks before we get a court date to mandate he maintain household bills he always paid. IN addition to this me and the kdis are going to be forced to move (we can not afford the house on what I will get in maintenence and child support), kids are forced to elave school district, and we loose our pets due to moving into an apartment now. We are loosing our whole lives and he is playing like a kids getting away with it. I am appalled by him and want nothing to do with him at this point other than to see him pay for his mistakes. I can't believe he has abandoned his kids and yet when our daughter palys ball we have to pretend he is a great coach (he coaches her team) and not say anything. I am tired of being quiet, I feel like I am condoning his behaviors. He wants to introduce his little girlfriend to our children after 8 weeks of being gone and they are not ready for this. They don't even want to see him. They have been with him 3 times and he when our daughter said she wasn't ready to meet this person his comment was "well, your real nice she is 10 yrs old and wans to feel normal again. I can't wait for this to be over!!!!
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