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I joke a lot on posts. I guess it's my way of coping with my issues-comedy in tragedy. But ... i swear it really sucks not knowing your sexuality. What's worse is that I'm probably the epitome of introversion when it comes to real life. Outside of the internet world...i tell no one, nothing. I'm already the black sheep of the family. And theyre so conservative that I have no doubt in my mind that they'd burn me at the stake if they ever found out that I'm attracted to women.
But am I a lesbian? I'm also attracted to men. Am I straight? Bi? How can I ever find out if Im afraid to open up to people in the way that I do here? I can't. It scares me to open up. It has always ended up in heartbreak for me. *sigh* this sucks. I'm not sexually frustrated. I've got reaaallly low self-esteem and I know that until I learn to love myself, i'll never be able to let anyone love me. I just wanna know who I am. How can I love myself...how can anyone love anyone without knowing what they're about?
Damn I'm so confused. I hope this made sense. I'd appreciate anyone's two cents on this. Thank you.
But am I a lesbian? I'm also attracted to men. Am I straight? Bi? How can I ever find out if Im afraid to open up to people in the way that I do here? I can't. It scares me to open up. It has always ended up in heartbreak for me. *sigh* this sucks. I'm not sexually frustrated. I've got reaaallly low self-esteem and I know that until I learn to love myself, i'll never be able to let anyone love me. I just wanna know who I am. How can I love myself...how can anyone love anyone without knowing what they're about?
Damn I'm so confused. I hope this made sense. I'd appreciate anyone's two cents on this. Thank you.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
i will have a think about that one for half an hour. Just be u, be happy, be honest.
big hug x
suzanne
I read your post, I think first and foremost you need to find the reasons behind the low self-esteem issues it's not jus because u don't love yourself it's more to it.....
I also think you need to ask yourself bout why your attracted to women or why it is the same with men.
Your family don't need to know anything not untill your ready, but you need the confidence and strenghts to help guide you through it, because it's alot to deal with not only for you but for the person hearing it as well, If I were you I'd wait until you were sure.
It takes time to understand you and the needs you want for yourself in life, trust me it's taken me a really long time to understand it. But I know both what I want and What I want to give to someone, And trust you will find it."
Now totally lost what I was going to write this is so not cool
As for the labels, no one can tell you who to love or how to love, it just happens.
Once you decide how you want to live, just remember you will never make everyone happy about the decisions that you make for yourself. If your family really love you they will come around, because they have to, if they want to be apart of your life.
Like yourself, love yourself, we are all here for a reason.
peace, t
find out who you are....first and foremost and then accept who you are. we are all different, gay straight or bi....
you have to learn to love yrself and be happy with who you are. Your sexuality is a small part of you and theres so much more to you. you have to look at why your not happy.
then change it.....
harsh words i know but no one is going to wave a magic wand for you hun as much as i like to dress up (lol)
You will find you just beleive in yrself ....we do.
tiny x
It's ...just lonely i guess. Love...it means being okay with being vulnerable. I don't ...
I can't afford to be vulnerable. I don't think i have the capacity to sustain the possibility of getting hurt. First and foremost, I need to find some strength. Anyway...thank you for your advice.
I would start with YOU and never mind the sexuality for a while. Go get yourself some effective therapy and probably group would be good. Go get yourself in better shape. You won't attract the right mate anyway with the feeling that you have about yourself. Make YOU the project for some time. You will never regret growing your sense of self. The rest has a way of working itself out as we work on ourselves. Blessings to you!