Well, possibly maybe your not a lesbian. & maybe your bisexual? ONLY you will be able to answer these deep questions in the end. btw, Being able to enjoy sex with a man doesn't make you str*8. ok, well you did say boy? i have no idea how old you/he are? Its more about heart& spirit connections, not just sex. I was married to a man for 6 yrs had 3 kids, and had other male partners before I came out as a lesbian. Once i did get clarity & totally came out? i didn't have any desire to go back w/men and/or be sexual any further.

Its a long process for many of us. Our personal identity is not always solved quickly or as B & W for some. Counseling is helpful for many. Support groups also. Good luck, Jess

Hey Quirkykat,

It really all can get pretty confusing.

First of all, experimentation at a young age is pretty common. Just be careful and safe, ok?

Oceanamoon brings up some good points. I'd like to reinforce that just because you have sex w/a guy doesn't make you straight, and just because you have sex w/a girl (or womyn) doesn't automatically mean you're lesbian/gay.

Ultimately, you'll be the only one to figure out what's going on, Hon, but like oceana says, you may not be lesbian, or straight but bisexual.

But right now, just having sex w/a boy last night, it's not like you immediately have to decide 'what" you are right now! Be yourself, go w/the flow. Be safe and careful and enjoy what comes your way.

As you grow and mature and things begin to fall more and more into place, you may find yourself drawn more to guys or more to girls.

that's going to give you a clearer idea of "what's going on?" - the question you are asking tonight.

Does any of this make sense to you? Just don't panic and feel like you have to have everything figured out at this point in life, because you most certainly do NOT!!

Love yourself just as you are. Be good to yourself. enjoy your life and all of it's experiences. Let life be good to you.

You sound like an awesome girl, and I promise you'll be ok w/all of this.

Hugs,
Trish

ew! I had to say that first, sorry.
Hey, sex is sex!
Try having a relationship with one. You'll come back to us... ;)

Hey..I totally agree with Trish. I was engaged to a man for 7 years...but deep down in my heart,I know I love women. I think when I was younger I felt the need to "label" myself,but now I know that if Mr. or Mrs.Wright came along I would be fine. HOWEVER a HOT SEXY FEM will always be my #1 choice. LOVE Is LOVE

Sorry, I still say "ew"!
Give me, my soft butch anyday! wow! Talk about heat!

calm...think...do what feels right and don't let a label stop you or restrict who you are.

The heart wants what the heart wants. Don't freak out and listen very carefully to what is going on inside. And If you don't know what to do next, don't do anything. It will happen naturally.

Sex and a relationship are very different things!