I am currently in a relationship with a 22 year old, I'm 26. We've been together off and on for about 5 years. She has lied about little things in the past and I eventually find out. September of this past year while she was away at college I suspected her to be cheating (we were arguing a lot, things were perfect). In October, I read her phone in front of her and there were a few messages from her "girl" friends that were questionable. I flipped out but let it go the next day only for her to eventually leave me the next week which left me devastated. During those weeks in September and October I have questioned her and she has repeatedly lied to me about things that I knew were true. Moving forward, I wouldn't answer her calls, texts, or visits to my house for 2 months. She tried dating another girl which for some reason failed. She came to my house in December asking to talk. After talking, I missed her so much. We hung out and eventually got back together. I haven't gotten over what has happpened. Even after coming back in December she would talk to the girls that I feel she was involved with while we were together. She repeatedly lies about txts, phone calls, hanging out with them. She erases her messages, text messages, messages on myspace and facebook. I know these are red flags, but its hard for me. We're two different people. But we're best friends. I do have good times with her. She's always been there for me, she really is a great friend aside from our relationship. There are great parts of our relationship too. It's all just getting to be too much. I don't know that she has lied lately (she is trying to make this work) but I can't forget about the cheating and the lies in the past. I don't feel she has changed enough for me to move forward with her. I feel like she needs to grow up and until then I can't be with her, but I can't leave either. I'm lost without her. I know that's sick to say haha. I miss her when she leaves, I miss everything about her, but she drives me crazy. I'm so confused. We are together everyday, all day pretty much. Neither of our families know. We both went to college out of town, hours away and some of our college friends know, but no one in town. Some suspect she is gay, but no one thinks I am. It's hard to go through relationship issues such as these alone. I need help, so any adive would be great!
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