I have to think how to reply to this, but have no fear....i WILL

You are living proof that they work. You said you had 3 years together and it ended but not due to the way you met.
I was the biggest skeptic on this issue until it happened to myself. NOw I am trying to figure out the how and the why.
Why do I feel this way? HOw can this work?
Then I feel robbed because I cant do what I want. How do you deal with your feelings that you want to be the one that is there for them when maybe things arent going well and maybe wanting them with you because your day or your night is not right? It is very hard and very complicated.
The one thing is that it forces the issue of communication immediately and that is an issue that lots of couples struggle with and I believe is key for a strong foundation.
Ask me this question before and i would have said run like deer thru forest but not anymore. If I could change any of it I would.
I am not someone that can sit back and listen to things happen and know that someone that I could possibly love someday is hurting or doing whatever it is. Even the good times, who would not want to be there?
The one on one is important as is the intimacy in the relationship and where do you draw the line. What becomes a priority and what plays second fiddle?
Hell, I dont even know how to play the fiddle.
Any ideas on any of this complicated issue?
Dont mean to take your soap box away, but Im open for any and all suggestions.

My fiancee and I met online and we're more than happy...ok well we've on been together going on three months but still we're happy and we see it working out. I'm already planning on flying out to see her for christmas and then I'm moving to where she is for college. Its working for us, yes its new and we're young but its working. You'll never know if you don't take the dive and try...if I hadn't I'd still be alone and depressed which isn't fun. There's no harm in trying. I don't know if that helpped or not, hope it does. Good luck.

...don't hurt people...why did you hurt her??? Katie please don't do that to me. promise me you won't do what she did after she moved...please...

I won't do that sweetie, I promise. I promise I won't. Whatever it was, cause truthfully I'm a lil lost, I won't do it I promise. I promise. I love you sweetie. I'm not going to.

Sorry ladies didn't mean to take your spot light. I apologize.

hey there,
i have never "met" anyone on line (that is, emailed with and then met, in that order), but a long time ago, my heroin- and coke-addicted neighbor met someone (straight) and they were married in 6 months! The guy was from England. She was a scary neighbor, I tell ya. Once, I joined her in her habit. yikes. no thank you!
now this is babbling!

I have never met a partner online. However, I have met reall great friends online that, if I were single, I'd consider. I have gotten to know them through emails and such and later met them. We met my g/f and I's best couple friends online a few years ago. Ironically, they lived less than 3 miles from us!

I think it can work, but you have to acknowledge that, at some point, one of you is going to have to relocate. Then the decision of relocating - do you move right in with her or maintain some independence and live alone for a while? I think I would relocate and get my own place and work on forging my own friendships so that, if it didn't work out, I wouldn't be in some town I disliked with no support.

I've never had a online relationship before but I met my gf through a chat line. It was sort of unusual at first because we didn't know if we were actually ever going to be together. I used to just go on there to chat and then I met her. We've been through some things together (on and off for about 2 years) but we're still trying to make things work. It's hard because she's so far away but I believe that it's worth it.

Sorry got lost for few days in 5 hour phone calls and lengthy IMs. Obviously its going well. Distance is gonna be a bitch for awhile but if its worth it and meant to be we can do this. Thanks ladies for your responses. Apppreciate the input.

Peace & Love
Raven

it has been established anything under 3000 miles is "do-able". Good luck

Thanks brutus. . .