Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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I am 25 and have been in a relationship for 5 years. Recently our love has drwn cold. I need help to make our love warm again. How do I make her fall deep in love with me again?
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talk, talk, and more talk. Both of you seat down and start talking to each other.
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same story with me.. it was five years in january... we decided to take a break .. to date others.. i am not saying this is what is right for you.. we talked about it and decided on this...we still live with each other and still are best friends .. it is going to be hard to see her with someone else.. especialy when the someone else is a guy.. but it is what she wants.. and i want.. its just really hard.. when something like what we had dies.. it is sad when love turns cold without reason.. but you must talk about it with her.. you must..
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Steph's got the right idea. It's the only way to find out what's on both your minds. Are you no longer feeling warm to her? Are you guys in a rut? What are your expectations? Of her, of you, of being in a relationship...?
colored-cheerios
There are some amazing books out there on intimacy and how to build intimacy. When I was having a hard time in my last relationship, we purchased a book that we each filled out and it talked about our hopes, fears and expectations and then we shared our answers with each other. I also think when you take sex out of the picture and get reaquainted as friends and play together, things seem to either fall into place or you know it is time to move on. My partner and I have this "motto" about waking up each day and deciding to choose each other. Not because we have to but because we both live our lives in a way that the other person wants to choose us. Does this makes sense? I wish you the best....
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