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Married but im gay!!

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Hi all,
Don't know if this id common but I need to talk! Here goes. I am married and have 3 wonderful children. I have been married for a year and as much as we love eachother something isn't right. Im gay and I have known this since i was a young teenager, I have managed (bar a few slip ups) to keep it buried down deep inside. Relationships with blokes have never worked out for me and I just passed it of as one of those things.
I love my husband very much and I don't want to hurt him or my children. But by doing this I think i will spend the rest of my life wanting something more than I have. Im just so lost, what to do??!!
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i went 21 years living a lie in my marrige.only u can make that dicesion.
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Gozzy is right in the end only you can make the decision. In my opinion tho its time to fess up. You deserve to be happy and both you and hubby deserve better than what you are getting from each other. You may love him but if you arent honest with him he and you both are being short changed.
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I agree with the previous posters. It's entirely up to you. Do what you think is right for you and your family.
I do think, however, that if you stay in this relationship, you'll only end up resenting your husband.
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I don't know why womyn straight or gay ever marry to begin with...
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Thanks for the posts, I know your all right. I just wondered if there is anyone out there in the same situation at the moment?
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I've been married twice and i have 4 kids. I've been gay for as long as i could remember, both of divorces were my faught i was married to wonderful men and my first husband is still my best friend. i just got so tired of lying to myself and to everyone else about who i was that finally I couldnt do it anymore . i didnt want to hide who i was, now after a year of having a girlfriend my family, friends and even my ex husbands respect my choice, didnt say they agree they just respect me and are happy to see taht i am truely happy being me.
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