I do not believe it is the "ceremony" that matters. It is the love between two people who want to live as "one entity" for all to see and to know and acknowledge.
That is all that should matter:)

I've done both in my lifetime; had the lavish wedding ceremonies and done the simple cimmitment ceremony withh only my partner before a beautiful fire and our fur-babies as our only witness besides Goddess/Great Spirit.

The bottom line in all of them is that it's the love we share that really matters.

i want to mary this womyn that i love so dearly - and hopefully one day will be granted that right - but until then, i know we are "married" in our hearts, and nothing else truly matters.

Namaste,
Trish

yes and we wnat to have a ritual, that is what this post is about, Neat ways to declare and share our committment.

I guess the point is, anything and everything can be done - it's truly going to depend on your own lives, interests, etc. Good luck.

Namaste,
Trish

Oh, check out some books on amazon.com - there are lots about ceremonies and what and how to do it all, from simple to lavish.

Namaste,
Trish

it took me and my ex wife one yr to work it all out we talked alot about what we wanted and what we didnt want we even went and had leagl papers that covered as partners so the best thing to do is set down over coffe are tea and start wrighting down every thing that has made the tow of u smile from the first time u met to the first date the first time u knew u where in love and then put it all togeather and u will have the start of a wounderful day and life oh me and my ex wie where together for 13 wounderful yrs and are stell great friends and often talk about are wedding day

Hey I am not sure what faith you are, but I am a pagan and could I susjest maybe a handfasting

We got married last spring, at a renaissance faire!

We got married 9 years ago in a church with a minister (who happens to be lesbian) and our best friends. I made my partner's dress and found a similar one for myself at a local store. We had my partner's favorite flowers on the altar and celebrated communion from a ceramic cup given to us as a wedding present. We exchanged matching rings as well.

Next year we want to have a 10 year anniversary celebration - don't know what it will look like yet, but all our family and friends will be invited this time.

I have an idea, think of things you guys like together and seperatley about eachother. Meaning...where you have been, purchased, pictures or shared. Then you may narrow it down to the most important ones and bring to the ideal ceremony that fits for the both of you. Good luck to you both.