I hate the word bisexual...It seems to mean promiscuous in the real world. I'm just as faithful as heterosexuals and homosexuals. I just love the person and not the genetailia. I was with my last gf for 7 years and even though she cheated on me, I never strayed. It just aggravates me when I get shunned for being they way I am from BOTH communities. Oh well, I am who I am.
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I think the lesbian community used to view bisexual women as 'experimenting'. Being with one was akin to being with a 'straight' girl and the assumption was you were eventually going to get your heart broken (think Ellen and Anne as an example) when they went back to men and wanted the conventional hetero life. I do believe this perception is changing within the community however. Additionally, I'm meeting a lot more women that define themselves as lesbian politically and socially but also will consider men sexually. Unfortunately labels are a necessary evil in identifying ourselves and others. Hopefully as time progresses, labels will have less stigma whether they be 'lesbian' or 'bi'.

my view is as long as you love the person who cares whether there bi or lesbian the fact of the matter is everyone is compabile of cheating no matter what your sexual prefrence is.

This issue has crossed my mind quite alot. I firmly believe its about the person and not whether they r male or female. Just to clarify i have never been attracted to men but i have dated girls who like both sexes.

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Thanks so much for your replies! I hate using labels, but they're necessary. Bisexual really is the only word that describes what I am, even though it would be so much easier just to call myself a lesbian.

Whatever fits you. You don't live on this earth for other people's opinions. Its all about being happy with who you are. Its all good.

I think the term "sexually open" fits me. I was alaways very attracted to women, however for the acceptance of society I chose to bend into a hetero life for 7 miserable years. It took a lot of courage to finally admit to myself that I am a lesbian. However, I can be very sexually attracted to men, but I see men purely as sex toys. Women are my relationship choice. It is what is inside a persons heart that matter,not what lies between thier legs.

wow bonzia, thats the best way to say what i have heard others try and say. Even men for play things kinda makes me gag at this point. No pun intended.

as long as you love the person that your with it doesnt matter what label you have

You know, I have the strange belief that most people deep down are bisexual, capable of loving others not based on gender, but choose a specific person or type of person for identification. Please don't jump down my throat for that, I'm just pondering. Many have the firm belief they can only love one gender, but what if there is someone out there outside of your stratus... For instance, I think I have the capability to love anyone, but the one I am devoted to just happens to be a great woman. I'm not sure if that makes me bi, gay or confused, but I see the potential in all situations...

yeah, that's really how i feel, too. i don't like the word bisexual because it tends to mean that i like both sexes equally, which is not exactly true. it depends on the person, and really has nothing to do with her/his gender

I don't like the word simply because "sex" is in there. Just as "transexual" became "transgender" or we say "gay" and "straight" instead of "homosexual" or "heterosexual" I wish that "bisexual" would change to a better term that did not have the sexual tone to it.
I also agree that everyone is, to some degree, bi. There is a scale we all fall on, and I have always been right smack in the middle!

I am a woman who loves women. Most of my relationships have been with bisexual women. Regardless of label, sex, etc. If you love someone and you are faithful it does not matter. Love is love and I have never felt threatened being with a bisexual woman,

i hate how lesbians are sterotyped to hating bi sexuals. i personally dont hold anything against bi-sexuals. to me bi sexuals dont see a sex ( male or female) the just see a person and are attracted to either. i think bi-sexuals are seen as being unsure of there sexuality because saying your "bi" before you fully come out is a safe gaurd to actually coming out and testing people as coming out as being bi.
not sure if im making sense im tired.

i have nothing against bisexuals. i know a lot of people think they are confused or not wanting to admit that they are really gay-and while that might be the case in some situations-many bi people i've met seem to truly just like both sexes. and i think that's cool.

the only thing i really dont like is when people say they're bi just to get attention, fit in, or to use as an excuse to cheat on their partner. sexual experimentation is awesome, but doing it solely for attention is definitely not.

it's people like that that give bisexuals a bad name, in my opinion.