My partner and I are exclusive. We now have about the same levels of desire and, I'll be blunt, get it on about 2-3 times a week. I consider us very lucky to still have this active of sex life after being together for 9 years. We did go through a couple rough patches getting here where we had different needs/wants but we managed to work through them. If anyone wants it more, it would be me. However, she's recently lost 100 pounds and her drive has seriously escalated. We're able to communicate openly when we are not on the same level and can express what we each need/want. I think we would both be open to an open relationship if it became needed or wanted down the road.

You and your partner will have to define the nature of your relationship. Open or closed.

But for me, committed means exclusive. My partner and I had a very intense relationship for 12 years. Heated from day one to the end.

Adjustments were made because my desires and hers did not always match, but eventually we meet in the middle.

Work, work and more work at the relationship is always nessary.

I think you may have misunderstood the intention of my post - I have no issues with the level of intimacy in my relationship and I agree - work work and more work are always necessary. I believe I have as close to a perfect relationship as they come; nine years later it is even more passionate than ever. I really just wanted to get a dialogue and conversation moving - I wasn't looking for advice. But I thank you just the same for your response! Communication and compromise must play a key role - as you expressed.

awwwwwwwwwww 2 to 3 times a week,it's not fair i worked out i get it 4 to 5 times a year whine!whinge! there must be something i can put in her tea.can't even watch "the L word"cos i get so jealous boo hoo

its gozzys gf here 4-5 times a what ooooooeeeeeeeerrrrrrrr is that too many for you darling do you want me to cut down lololol mmmmwwwaaahhh

Me thinks there may be a powerplay going on, ladies. Manipulations are ugly, whatever form they take....

I am insatiable. I could have it twice a day.
she stays up with me, but I wipe her out and hurt her back!

girs my g/f was joking when she added her message after i showed her what i had written,we share the same journal on here u see so she hasn't her own addy.

Highbi - isn't it great that our ladies TRY to keep up with us?!

Gozzy - it's good that you can trust enough to share an account and still be open about your feelings.

I'm reactionary and PMS-y today... sorry if I was harsh.

thats ok kiberly still loves ya ohhhh pms bad lol wait till u get to the premenopausal stage added to pms like me arghhhhhhhhh