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How do you meet girls?

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I am not sure how I am going to meet a girl... I tried the bar thing last friday and I found it really hard I couldn't approach any girls and I dont know where else I could meet a nice girl.. I feel like I am going to be very lonely... before I came out I used to date guys without a problem I had a date every friday and saturday if I wanted to, and now I feel like I am going to be dateless for ever :(
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Now don't laugh but I found my current gf right here at ds 3 months ago. Will it work? so far so good. Met an X on line also and it worked wonderfully for 3 years. Have also met Xs in the grocery store line lol. We (gay women) are all over it just sometimes takes a bit more to find us. Good luck.

Love & Peace
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I met my ex at the electronics department at WalMart. Just a casual meeting but my gaydar was up and over the next few times I saw her at Walmart we finally decided to get together. It can happen anytime, anywhere. Join clubs, pick a hobby, work out at a gym, look online. You'll find someone. It may just take awhile to find a quality somebody.
peace, teresa
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Um, bars are great but I wouldnt count on them I would suggest finding something that you like to do and then joining a group of community for it, you really never know what will happen:)
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Seek out groups that do what you like to do: hiking, reading, whatever. A great website is meetups.com. I joined a book club on that website that meets in my neighborhood. I didn't join to meet a new lady love, but the possibilities would be there if I wanted. I've had to explain I'm taken more than once! Bars are only a good place to meet people if that's your hobby and what you like to do. It's better to focus on your interests - take a class at the community college, join a womens group, look for a womens community center in your area, find a book club or volunteer for a charity. Lesbians are everywhere!!
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Hey Adricla,
Also remember that women are not men and won't necessarily come approach you. A simple 'Hi' to a cutie is often enough to break the ice. And a lot of women meet through friends so...make some friends! You live near NYC so try the CubbyHole or Brite. Smaller places that are more conversational. Good luck!
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Thank you for your advice ladies :) I guess i have to be a bit patient and also work out the confidence to walk up to someone.. I'm really friendly and active so I already belong to a gym since a while ago and I'm part of three book clubs and also do volunteering work.. so I guees I just got to hope soemthing will happen .. but thank you all and if anything works I'll keep you posted.. may be I'll try the online thing
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