Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group

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Crushing bad

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So I have a crush on the most beautiful, wonderful, sweet, artistic, fun, perfect girl I've ever met. She's so beautiful that I actually can't speak around her (and that's really weird for me.) She's not your stereotypical beauty, but there's something about her.

oh yeah, and she's straight.

:*(

Well, I don't know that for sure. I'm assuming so. She has a certain look about her that looks a little gay, but it could be just her style.

Anyways, I keep thinking about her. I can't sleep, and when I do, I dream about her! I think about her so much it's starting to get pathetic.

So I guess what I'm trying to ask is this... Is there a non-creepy way that I can ask her to hang out more, even if it is on a friend level, (but possibly more)? Or should I just give up on this?
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Does she know you're gay? I might find a way to let her know that first. I told a story to my ex about some lesbian friends I had and that led to a discussion about being gay. If she's straight, it's probably a lost cause. Ask her to a movie you think she might like. That's safe. Good Luck!
peace, teresa
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As much as we all wish this wasn't the case, we have the admit to a person that we are gay before we can ask them out. For me this is the biggest challenge, because i know exacly how you feel! i'm worried that if I come out to her she will be weirded out and run away, and I don't want to destroy any friendship we might have. Your safest bet, if you aren't openly gay is to make friends first. Even if it's just to hang out and watch a movie, or strike up a conversation about an upcomming event next time you see her, or maybe a movie you really want to go see (which could lead to an invitation from either of you)

And in the end, I say go for it. You never know where things might lead you, and your best bet is to just keep going forward- and hopefully forward into a new relationship

Good luck and I hope you get your happy ending!
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