My girlfriend and I have had a rough time with this relationship. We fighting over stupid things, i've broken up with her several times, but we still seen to end up back in each others arms. I know that i've had a couple of topics on here and what it all breaks down to is that she likes to control me and everything around me, its getting better because i'm not letting her have the control anymore. Anyway, the bad thing is that i am in love with her, which is the sad part. I've changed my whole world for her. I came out to my family including kids, and ex's, and all of my friends which got me into a rough custody battle for my sons. i've moved into my own place and i've even tried to look at her point of view on how i raise my kids. well, we've been together for 11 months now and i'm ready to move in/talk about our future together. When it comes to these subjects she reminds me of a man. Everytime I bring up moving in she has an excuse from not wanting to, even though she's there everyday and night, the excuses range from i have 4 kids, 2 ex-husbands, never been on my own, oh yell everyone needs to adjust. Anyway, last night i ask her why she doesn't talk about marriage and being my wife, again another excuse, she thru in my face that I haven't taken responcibilty for my pass marriages, that i just could have said "no", that's another story. There always seems to be an excuse not to talk about these things , our lives together, she says that she's going to spend the rest of her life with me and i'm the one. When i think about how she doesn't want to talk about moving in or me being my wife it reminds me of being with a man that totally avoid the subject because he's doesn't want that with you. I really need advice, should i take sometime away from her to think, maybe so she can think? i'm a women i want to plan these things especially since she's the first person that i've ever beein in love with and this is the first time taht i've ever wanted to marry someone and have given all of my heart to. I just can't figure out if she loves me and i'm the one why its so hard for her to move in or talk about being my wife, to make plans talk about our wedding??? Am i being a fool? Or is she just playing with my heart? Don't understand...
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