The benefits I believe are in just expressing you, whoever that may be...some do not fall into strictly feminie or masculine tendencies...androgyny is not actually a choice but a way of being...a seperate way of being , if you will

i'm just me i don't fall into any catorgory.

Then help me dispel my myths. The androgenous women I meet are single, they look like they dont really take pride in their appearance and wonder why womena are not attracted to them....go ahead...get at me.

it is where they are comfortable..Who says "WE" have to be a certain way?

I can sport boxer shorts and a hat one day looking like a skally-wag and look like a femme-bot the next day. Variety is the spice of life Den mother....lol, any one like it really spicy?

I agree with you, Iroam. The androgenous women (and men) I know seem to have less self confidence and want to fade into the background most of the time. I'm not sure it's their androgyny that causes them to be single, but they go unnoticed because of a lack of confidence.

I have never been a feminine person. When I was a little girl, I was playing army and rugby with the boys. There was just something about flying through the air and viciously tackling someone just to get a ball out of their hands. I really didn't mind being tackled either. It was fun to get all banged up and bruised.
I've never put on a great deal of makeup. I never got into mom's makeup when I was little. I never liked wearing dresses, and to this day, I can never figure out how to style my hair.
So I'm pretty comfortable now the fact that I am never going to be a girly girl. That said, I still see myself as a woman. There are parts of me that are still very feminine, and I accept those parts. Now that I'm older, I do like to look like a woman. I like to wear skirts, I like to wear makeup, and I like to beg my friends and my mom to do SOMETHING with my hair so I don't look like I just crawled out of bed every day. I have a need to look attractive, and that is a very feminine aspect, I think.
But I'm not looking for someone butch. I have an attraction to women. I want a woman who looks and acts like a woman, even though I would prefer it if she were 'the top'.
I think the same goes for a lot of lesbians, just like gay men tend to prefer masculine men, we tend to prefer feminine women.

I am a bit confuse about the androgyny label... I mean what does a androgyny really looks like and how do you even know if you are one? ... I walk, talk and dress like a girl but I love sports watch football and baseball with the guys drink beer and play soccer... yet in the summer i wear a skirt everyday but rarely wear make up.. and I am not too confortable walking up to a woman I like to be approached but i know i dont like butch women.. anyway so where do I fall I think 3 categories are not enough to describe lesbian women

Yes, I'm not real sure about the labeling of the packaging here either. I love Annie Lennox, don't really know her sexual orientation but love her androgyny.