Hey there everyone, I dont know if this is the right place to post this or not (if it isnt please politely let me know) but I have been married for many years and do love my husband, but have also been in love for years with a woman. She and I have kept our relationship secret and I know that hurts her, but thats just how its been. At first I thought it was about sex, but I now know its not. I dont think I can leave my family for her and I just wanted to know if I am just being selfish and should leave her alone even though she tells me that she will stay no matter what. I appreciate any advice.