Gozzy,
I think everyone's personal experience is just that, personal to them as an individual.

Myself...I was always attracted to woman, but I thought I was just open-minded, progressive, product of the west coast, etc. I dated men and only men. I always felt empty and my relationships were as such also. Then 2/2001 I met my soulmate, I looked into her eyes as a stranger and knew I wanted nothing more then to be close to her. On that day I fell in love with the most beautiful creature I had ever laid eyes on. As time passed, I learned a great deal about myself and I thank her everyday for loving me and showing me myself through her eyes. Am I gay....if loving another woman makes me gay then yes I am. I truly believe it is who you love that is important and not their gendar that makes you who you are. You are who you are.

I honestly think we make far to much of this question than it really deserves. I mean, what makes one person like brussel sprouts and another cauliflower? Why do some like to play chess and others prefer to spend their time drawing? The only reason we focus so much on it is that society considers it "abnormal". Imagine if it got no more attention than what color car` you drive? We wouldn't question why but rather accept it as readily as the fact that the sun rises each day. People are just people with different tastes, thoughts and feelings...it's really that simple.

Very well said (written) sproket.

SPROCKET....YOU ROCK!

This is why I dont drive w/ bumper stickers on my car and wave my rainbow flag. I am then only pointing out that I am "different" according to society. Do heterosexuals advertise their sexual preference? If loving womyn makes me gay then so be it. I was married to a man, have 2 children but found out I was just settling......I am happy within my self. My confidence has made my kids confident. Anything else to my friends and or family would seem "weird". We are what we are, its a matter of who can be true to themselves!

ditto #1. I dont know if I am gay but if loving my soulmate, who is a woman, makes me gay then fine, I am.

I was actually sexually abused (which I feel comfortable stating here only because anyone who looked at my profile could see it lol). I'm not sure if that turned me off from men, or if I was born gay.
I just know that as long as I can remember, I've found girls attracted and had a really hard time not looking at them, where I barely notice guys.

i'm interested in the sciences,what makes us the person we are.thats why i brought this subject up.ok some of us never question what makes us gay but i have an inquiring mind ,can't help it.
freud once said everyone is born bisexual was his theory right?

I think we are all born bisexual as we have the ability to love both sexes but somewhere along the line the scales tip to one side or the other or in some cases they remain even. Excellent question though extremely complicated when you begin to think of all the possibilities.

Based on my own experiences, I am a strong believer that being gay is genetic. I don't know much about my grandmothers, but my mom is gay, her sister is gay, and the last few years I have been noticing that I too am attracted to women more and more and I find women much more comforting and alluring. I'm 27 and I have two wonderful children, and thier father is gone. Why? Because I wanted him to go. I can't commit to a man. I always had boyfriends in high school and college, but looking back none of those relationships really were all that meaningful to me. I didn't feel comfortable being with a man. Now, when I look at relationships I imagine I will be with a woman (or hope to be) instead of a man. I think our genes are strong in my family, and I am no exception.

my ex g/f daughter was gay.so it could be in the genes in some cases.but when i told my mum i must had got being gay from somewhere i got "well u didn't get it from me" lol it was worth saying it to her to to see her reaction.

On this subject, I think it is genetics. I was not brought up around no gay people I am only the second person in my dad's family that is gay. I didnt know about the gay community till high school, And growing up I was taught that what society calls normal which is a white picked fence with husband and children is the way its suppose to be. I dated boys the last past couple years people told me that they think I was ment to be with girls but I didnt believe them, I just did what made my dads family happy what is to be with men. It came to me realizing that I am ment to be with women, when my bf of on and of three was going to ask me to marry him. That reality check woke me up.