I feel for many of those posting here. Some stories have really resonated with me.

My 8 year old son--joined our family through foster care almost 2 years ago--is stealing from his classmates (and once from a store...that we know of). His teachers almost act like it's no big deal, but I see a pattern emerging.

We consistently provide consequences, including making him: apologize to the kid he stole from (or to the store managers); return the stolen item; and/or pay-back for stealing by giving up something of his that is similar to the stolen item. He just doesn't seem to click on and "learn," however. When's he's caught, he acts like our punishment of him is unfair...like he has no remorse. I just don't get it.

Of course, he's not able to vocalize his motivations or needs. Is this anger for being "left" by his biological mom? Is this reaction to the rejection by his peers? Is this an effort to control his uncontrollable world? Is this a symptom of a chemical imbalance?

All my husband and I can do is react consistently and clearly explain the consequences. But we're deeply concerned: right now it's pencils, candy, and pencil sharpeners. Right now his teachers think it's a "phase." What will happen when he's no longer a cute little boy...when he becomes a young man who steals?

Are consistent consequences, clear explanations, and treatment plans enough? Thanks!