
IVF with Donor Eggs or Donor Embryos Community Group
Support and advice for those who need to use Donor Eggs, Donor Embryos, or Donor Eggs/Embryos with a Gestational Carrier for infertility treatment. Welcome all at every stage of this journey to Motherhood.

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Thanks for starting this group, I've been looking for one! I recognize most of you ladies from the Infertility group. I'm going to be starting a donor cycle either in two weeks, or we might have to wait until next month.
I am still really struggling with who to tell. I really didn't want to tell anyone. But my best friend asked me how I was doing (she's been kept up to date at every step of my journey) and I couldn't lie to her. Anyway, I'm sure I'll be back asking questions soon. How did you ladies handle the tell/not tell issue? I know there is much debate and it can be a sensitive subject. Baby dust to all! -Ariel
I am still really struggling with who to tell. I really didn't want to tell anyone. But my best friend asked me how I was doing (she's been kept up to date at every step of my journey) and I couldn't lie to her. Anyway, I'm sure I'll be back asking questions soon. How did you ladies handle the tell/not tell issue? I know there is much debate and it can be a sensitive subject. Baby dust to all! -Ariel
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I have been honest with pretty much everyone. I am not ashamed of using a donor...no matter what they will be my children. Obviously I hadn't intended on telling so many people, but after losing two babies now after two cycles (one IVF & FET) it really didn't seem to matter anymore. They could not be loved anymore if they were my own biologically....they are MY angels!!!! Every person feels differently about this decision. Maybe it is because of how close my family is...I don't know, but either way it boils down to how comfortable you feel with how others are going to feel about your choice to use donor eggs. Give it a lot of thought...do what YOU feel is right for you!!!
Good luck!!!
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It is nice that a group was started for people that are doing the DE.
Hug, Clynne