I'm a black woman from NYC and my husband is a white Southern Christian (from MS). I didn't realize how much this would impact our relationship. I'm the first black woman he had dated and I was reluctant because of this reason from the beginning. At any rate, I'm a Christian too but we disagree on so many important things. I'm pro-choice he's not. I'm democrat, he's not. We disagree on some racial issues also and this really makes me uncomfortable and worried about having kids together. We fight all the time and he gets disrespectful and very angry. He has had a problem with anger, with drinking though those seem on the way to changing. My parents urged me to not talk about politics or religion with him... and even race! But what sense does that make? Aren't you supposed to talk to your spouse about everything? We've had problems from the beginning but he insists that things will get better and 'so what' about our differences. But in those moments they do matter and do cause an emotional rift. I don't feel close to him or in like with him. Then I hear or read about the realities of marriage and differences and hard work vs. what you see in movies and I rally. Am I fooling myself? We're both college educated. I'm 37 and he's 33 and now the rush is on to have kids! We met online and have been married for 18 months. Advice or suggestions from married folks would be greatly appreciated...
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