Interracial Relationships Support Group
This community is dedicated to the challenges presented when two people of different religious backgrounds form a relationship. Mingling different religions has both positive and potentially challenging aspects, including the religious preferences of children, religious holidays and traditions, schools and religious education and potentially different moral or ethical...
My husband and I are isolated alot because we are a mixed couple. Is there anywhere we would be accepted. I mean I like it here but we get the glares and the people whispering and no we are not paranoid. People say rude things all the time forgetting sometime that my husband is standing right there. I mean the black women, not all are hostile toward me sometime, and the white rednecks give us real disapproving looks and hateful disgusting looks, and old people look scared when they see my husband. I have lost several jobs in the 5 years we have been together under mysterious circumstances or I get less hours. Before we dated I worked full time and could keep a job but as soon as they found out I was with someone dark skinned they really changed toward me alot. I went to a predominantly African American church with my husband and believe me I was treated like crap. Now we go to a predominantly caucasian church and the people there are more accepting because they are considered a liberal church, but the only people that have ever invited us over in the two years we have been there is an African American couple who are just wonderful and a man from South Africa and his caucasian wife and a white guy brought us out to eat a couple times. I mean we have very few friends.
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
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My ENT sent me for more tests last week...one where they had me lie back in a chair, with blacked out goggles on so I couldn't see while they administered water into my ears one at a time ( first warm, then room-tempurature, then cold) while they video taped my eyes and asked me questions to determine how cognizant I was... This test went HORRIBLY. They were about 20 seconds or so into...
That's one thing I like about living here in Hawaii, I never gotta worry about crap like that and i'm so sick and tired of it!! I hate racism with a passion! I don't understand it and I don't like it and I won't ever except it! There is absolutely no point in racism. I wish it would go away, it's like a cancer!
I believe the racism is more in the South than anywhere else like i said. They will never be open minded and they dont like mix racing anyway. AZ is not a fan of mix racing but i do see it a lot.
The west coast is pretty nice. Sacramento , California has the highest amount of interracial couples according to a census a few years back. San Francisco is so large and diverse that interracial couples are a given, they are not seen as unusual.
Love is love. You're so strong!
I think historicaly this has been because race is such an easy tool to use to divert peoples attention away from how the powers that be are screwing them over, just blame someone who's different, who looks different, talks different etc. Of course race is not the one bow in this arsenal those intent on hating always find something even if it's as stupid as how you wear your hair or how much you weigh.
That being said there are some areas where mixed couples do not seem to get as much static as in others. The larger cities in the pacific northwest are usualy more color blind, when I was dating I went out with a rainbow of men and never had ugly comments directed at me and have had many friends in mixed couples, also family, and we rarely have problems wiht idiots.
It is a shame you have not been able to create a group of friends who are accepting and supportive. You'd think your church would be the first place where people would realize your all the same under that thin laywer of skin.