I am a 27 year old Indian woman, born and raised in England. I have been seeing an English man for about a year and a half and we are very happy. My parents do not yet know about us and are heavily pressuring me to have an arranged marriage - to the point that I can't sleep any more because I keep worrying about things. The problem is I don't know how to tell them (I really want to get it over with) but when I told them about my ex - an Indian guy who was the same religion but a different caste, my dad put me in hospital and then locked me in a room for 3 days. I can't see a way out because if that's how they reacted to an Indian boyfriend, I can't imagine how they'll react to a white boyfriend. I live a couple of hours drive away from them but have to go home every weekend. I am worried about what will happen - they know where I live. My boyfriend is adamant I move in with him, but they also know where I work. I dont want any trouble at work - I don't want to be gossiped about at work as well as within my community. I am worried about their reaction, and about hurting them, and what they will have to face in our community, and also about whether I am throwing everything away for nothing - I feel sure it will work out but I felt sure last time and my ex and I were together for 6 and a half years. I am very confused and very worried. I really dont know what to do. I have been looking for support groups for this sort of thing - I couldn't find anything at all. If any-one knows of any, I would appreciate if they could let me know. It would also be great to hear from other people who have been through this - all my other Indian girlfriends in mixed marriages/relationships don't understand - they're parents were angry but came round. My parents are much more traditional than my friends and my friends think I am exaggerating - no-one knows what happened last time. Any advice would help. :0(
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