I don't care what people say or think about who I love and choose to be with, but I have had white females go into extreme interragation mode with me and tell me at the end they could never date a black man and they didn't think it was a good choice. I've also taken alot of flack from African American females about being with a white man,crap like I couldn't be woman enough fro him or satisfy him,or relate and understand him-Blah,blah,blah. I don't get it.

Most of the times I've heard people take exception to this issue,is never on a scientific or Biblical Level.Explain to the masses in the way's that I've just described why it is so "DETREMENTAL"to mix and I will then file it under "ADVISEMENT".Otherwise,Chill!!

My fiance is black and i am white, i have a 4 year old white daughter, and my fiance is in a wheelchair, so we definitely get looks, surprisingly nobody has ever said anything to us. But my family is not very happy with all of it,and that is okay because i am in love. I have a friend who is black and white and her husband is mexican, and a mexican friend with a white man, and a mexican friend with a black man and 1 child by him.

Only barriers from those who have erroneous filters steeped in racism rather than that you and your husband love one another.

If the prophet Moses married an ethiopian woman with very dark skin because he loved her, this demonstrates biblical principle that inter-racial dating and/or marrying is completely kosher.

Well said cleanviper. Hey you look somewhat like a man I recently dated but had to break it off with. I like what you said, not blackness, not whiteness, but rightness.

Beautiful!!!

and we didn't break because of race, we broke it because he is too busy and we weren't able to spend necessary time together.

Let me add something else to the soup here tho. Where I live in Colorado, there is a high amount of black & white couples so many that I don't even see it any more. There are husbands who love their wives, their forthcoming babies, families; there are wives who love their husbands and children.

A man I recently hung out with, an AA man, has Only had wives who were nonafrican-american, rather white.

Altho, the man I broke up with, he had told me that he had never dated outside his race before me and it was new for him. Well, it's a very personal thing. But cleanviper, what you said..

Not black, not white, but right.

Love it!! Yyyyyesssss!

I am a AA female married to a White man. I have noticed in the southwest, (I am from Oklahoma) its seems that the coupling either way is excepted. I think its mostly because there are some many military around that area. But my H and I moved to the west coast where we thought that our type of coupling would be excepted easier and we found that it wasn't. I've had to hold my H back from people saying smart remarks. It was just amazing to me. We never encountered any thing like that in OK/TX area. It was crazy.
My H is from, (I say sometimes, the whitest state in the US, MONTANA) and we have never encountered any thing negative. My children and I have been the only AA people in my H home town and all we get is smiles and head nods. Its a crazy world we live in.
I do feel that as we see more and more interracial couples the minds of the world will change. I have heard, by the year 2020 there will no longer be a pure race. Interesting thought.

I am a mutt, but primarily caucasian (LOL!) and married to a Latino man. We currently reside in Southern CA, and the only "barriers" that we have might be the snotty looks that we get from strangers from time to time. But the weird expression on someone's face isn't really a barrier to anything! Outside of CA, we get a little more sideways looks, but again, who cares. It doesn't bother us. The worst I got was a white girl trash talking, but it was more hilarious than troubling.

As for friends being coupled differently than we are, my brother married a Philippine-American, her sister married a Cuban man, and my best friend is AA and married a white guy.

who cares what you look like on the outside. it's who the person is on the inside. it's their value system that matters. besides we all bleed red, and we are all here on this planet together just trying to make it thru. the best thing we can do is try to help each other the best way we know how. so all those against that belief are the ones missing out. I never let anyone tell me who i can love or be friends with. If they try to tell me to, then they aren't friends and they don't matter to me.

Yes! I think that we face different problems/obstacles because of how we are coupled. I am a Bahamian woman, and my husband is a white American male. And like yourself, I have never faced any confrontations from white males, but I have received looks from AA males and AA females. I never experienced these reactions in the Bahamas, only in West Palm Beach, Florida.

My brother is also married to a white female. I was recently confronted by a AA woman, who told me that the reason, she give disapproving looks at Black men with white women is because he is helping someone outside his race. I think black women are harsher, when a black man decides to be with a white woman.

You also stated that you had AA girls, that saw you as trash for dating white guys, then you ended everything. We must not allow others negative attitudes to influence our lives. Recently a AA women, (my hairdresser) asked me if I thought that I was too good for a black man? I will go to another hairdresser. I don't allow anyone who doesn't support my marriage to fill my head and heart with foolishness.

Bahamiangirl.

I think it all depends on the Location and I live in California, I never really encountered racism until I moved to southern cali and I meet a AA woman from the south she did not like the fact that I was married to AA man. But a lot of people think is cool that my husband and I are married. We are on our 6 years, My friend she is AA and she married to a Latino man. They have had a great marriage so far and people of course talk, why did you marry a Latino man, but we tell stories, but in Cali there are so many bi-racial marriages, you do have some crazys.

I am an Bahamian(Black)woman and my husband is a loving, nice white man. When we go out in public (in West Palm Beach, Florida)people don't confront us because we are an interracial couple. All the attention go on our son. He is 2 years old and he is a very beautiful child. However, I have seen the way people look at a black man and a white woman in our area and I don't like it. I think people should just mind their own business and this world will be a better place.

As many others have pointed out how people react to you has more to do with where you are then the racial mixture of the couples and I think this has changed over time too.
When I was just out of high school one of my boyfriends was black which caused a lot of staring and giggles but no one ever said anything to either of us. At the same time my black girlfriend, who I'd gone to high school with, was dating a white man (Cynthia never dated anyone but white men) and most of the commnets I heard about their relationship came from white women and THEY were focused on her looks and how if "he" were going to date a black women he could at least pick a good looking one.
My husbands family is very mixed racialy and they run the gamet of skin tones from very dark to very white, makes for interesting family reunions and we've rarely ever heard critical remarks.
This is one of those issues that just drives me crazy. The layers of our skin that hold our coloring are about as thick as a peice of paper and under that we are all the same color, have all the same organs in the same place and bleed the same color so how can so much hate and crazyness come from an organ so thin?
I guess if people need a reason to hate or to feel superior they will always find something and color is the most visible target to hang on but it is so sad and senseless.