Sorry to hear about the small mindedness and bad behavior you'd encountered. Maybe I had lived in cosmopolitan cities all my life, I don't get the reaction you're speaking of. Yes, I do get passed over when trying to get attention for a drink from the bar... That's more like my small built rather than my race. And my accent does make bus drivers, service staff etc impatient because they can't understand me sometimes. When I am out with my white husband, people are more curious about me... where I came from etc, not make derogatory remarks. Maybe it's more critically judged when you're a white female marrying outside your race???? Can it be????

Maybe you should research more diverse communities. I live in one and we have interracial families all over my neighborhood. More than I can count on 2 hands. I recommend you guys getting out of there ASAP. Your life will be so much better with out the added burden.

That sounds just like the people I grew up around. The rude outburst is most common, in my opinion, when a white female mixes with another race, especially the black race. I grew up in NC. Although racism seems to be decreasing, it does remain. When my bf asked if I was embarrassed of him I had to explain that I am not embarrassed of him, I am embarrassed, ashamed, and angered by the ignorance and rudeness of so many whites. Even my family (older members) have strong negative opinions about mixing. They think there is some Biblical law against it. Whereas, I have found nothing in the Bible that says interracial marriages are wrong.
When someone says that black people need to go back to their own country...they need education on history. Why do so many white people believe they are superior to other races?

I am black and my husband is white. We went to the South for his brothers wedding. I think it was deep down in Virginia. They treated me like crap. My husband parent are divorced and my husband sister is adopted from El Salvador. So to them we were all below their standards. They didn't even invite us to their home for a meet and greet or dinner or nothing. They turned their noses up at us the whole time. They were giving out white flowers to pin on the female family memebers and they found a reason why they didn't want me to have one. After the wedding was over they decided to pin one on me. I was actually embarrassed for the ignorance they showed the entire wedding. They never offered us a meal - we had traveled a long distance for this wedding. The rehearsal dinner, they odered pizza that we ate in their church basement. The reception they served PEANUTS. They had these little homemade finger food things and the cake was just a front for the pictures. The whole thing was all about the dress and the pictures. Needless to say these people are divorced. Then the brother gonna say after the marriage is over that the ex wife was a racist. OK - like he just found that one out. He flipping knew the whole time he was marrying a racist. I was never invited to their home. They would invite my husband while I got to stay home with my dog. They would make it like "the brothers" were getting together for a guys weekend. BS

I know what you are talking about ,New Yorker. This is what I was raised around and continue to hear/see. It is apalling how cruel and ignorant people are. I am so sorry for what you went through.
I agree with you, your brother in law knew exactly how his ex-wife felt before they married.
I am glad you live in a community where you do not face this type of conduct daily. I can only guess that here in the South it is like an infestation. I hate it!

I agree with some that have posted here. Get out of whatever community you're currently in...if not for the sake of lifting your own burden of having to deal with these people but more so for your child.

As someone who grew up mixed in a very Caucasian community it at times can be sort of traumatizing to have to deal with people's hatred, ignorance, and intolerance.

There's nothing worse than going through part of your life really believing that something is WRONG with you just because you are mixed!

Good luck!