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looking for church accepting interfaith marriage

I am Christian woman and have been married to a Muslim man for 2 years. I have not attended church in over 10 years and would like to go back. Does anyone have suggestions on finding a church that would be accepting of the fact that my husband is Muslim?

I have attended one church several times and I like it, but I'm nervous about how people will react when they find out my husband is Muslim. I don't want them trying to convince me to convert him or something like that. I thought about meeting with the pastor to discuss this, but I don't know what to say or what to ask to gauge the "climate" of the congregation.

So I guess I'm also looking for suggestions on what to ask the pastor to see if the chruch will welcome me or shun me.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

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hotmom1
hotmom1

It really isn't anyone's business who you are married to. Would he be going with you? If not, then why even make it an issue. I am Catholic and my husband is an Athiest. It isn't anyone's business. My kids are baptized in the church and he was ok with that. He comes with me at Christmas and no one knows or really cares.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Honestly, I will agree with hotmom that it isn't any of their business. However, people will still be people. And you are looking for somewhere comfortable for the both of you. The first thing I would suggest looking for is the preacher's reaction. He should be accepting but that doesn't necessarily mean that he will be. I would say that if he is accepting of this, especially without wanting to push religion or question your husband's faith, then those attending his sermons should follow suit. As the saying goes, the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree. People will generally seek out guidance and leadership from those who are like-minded. If someone in the congregation has a problem with it though, talk to them about it. If that doesn't clear it up, then speak with the preacher. If it's still not cleared up, then avoid that person as much as possible. You and your husband are fine just the way that you are and do not need anybody trying to bring either of you down because of their own shortcomings. All in all though, do what you feel is right for you. :) I wish you all the best.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am not sure where you are from but in my church, we accept every one. God is all about love and mercy. IF he says Come as you are, how are we to go against that?
deleted_user
deleted_user

Depending on what part of America you live in I think most churches would be accepting of you attending. They want to save as many people as they can and yes they may also try to save him too. But they also realize that God hates divorce and so if you can continue to live a Godly life even while being married to a Muslim man, God would prefer that over divorce. Divorce destroys lives and God hates divorce. There is not harm having a conversation with a pastor about it.
Multi-Chara
Multi-Chara

have you thought of looking into finding a non-denominational church? from what i am aware from those churches simple teaches the word according to the bible and not limited to a certain religion or belief. do some research and see if you find something that will suit you.