I can't say that this is my situation, but I know that holding on to the anger and resentment only hurts us. Someone wrote a post about Karma coming around in the end, and I do believe it does even though sometimes it seems to take forever. Feeding into the negative about the affair and their new relationship is really only hurtful to us, and usually cements the new relationship with the "see what I was dealing with before?" comments...
It isn't fair that we get left with the fallout, none of what happened to us is fair, but in the end if we can keep our morals and values in tact then we can walk with our heads up knowing we were true to ourselves and our beliefs...

Since I'm still together with my wife, I didn't have to destroy their relationship. They did that on their own.

But, I don't think revenge is going to work. I'm sure the OW/OM will find out soon enough what kind of person they are with. Someone here has said it many times...living well is the best revenge. So, try to work through the pain and make it a priority to be really successful in your new life.

Bigbubbs what you see isnt always truth.They are Xcheaters and you feel they are happy?? Its only a matter of time before you see their self distruction on each other.What goes around comes around its only a matter of when.
Dont feed upon it press forward with your life and find some normalcy for you.
Good luck

Don't bother. In my case, I believe that if their marriage is destined to fail, (which, of course deep down I pray that it does) it will fail on its own. No, I was not the perfect wife. And he was far from a perfect husband and father. For one thing, he's a "functioning" alcoholic. Do you honestly think he told her that? We have a son who has a history of severe emotional problems. And my ex disconnected himself from his son emotionally years ago because he couldn't handle that. Gee, another thing I know for a fact he hasn't revealed to her. He's also borderline obsessive-compulsive. I could go on and on. They've lived together almost a year now. I imagine that she's discovering these things on her own.
So don't waste your time. You are the better person here. You stayed true and weren't given the chance to forgive his affair. Let God handle things. You don't want to stoop to their level. We should all be above that.

It seems that even though they were in the wrong they are now manufacturing stories about how bad the marriage was. I am just standing by and not saying anything and in doing so it appears true. It's like adding insult to injury.

IMO, they always place blame and exagerate and even make up stories. They need a way to deal with the guilt, so they push it off on the non cheating spouse,

I agree with Becky. Just be the bigger person and go on with your life. You will find someone much better one day and by that time your EX will be having troubles.