My husband had an affair with a member of our immediate family (they are not blood related) he is 50 and she is 21. He is going through a major midlife crisis and she played him like a cheap fiddle but of course he fell for it. There are many reasons why these two hooked up and in part it was more of an emotional affair but it did also get physical. It only lasted about 3 weeks before they got caught, I think she was the one who wanted to end it because she told a family member who told me. So, to make this even worse most of the people in our family know about it. The good thing is most everyone hated before it happened (she married into our family) so they all side with me. The weird thing is I have stayed with my spouse and she is still married to our family member so we are all still "related" I avoid her like the plague and he has little contact with her. I do think he is truly sorry and he is shocked by his behaviour. These two started out as friends IM'ing each other and they also shared a love of baseball so they got close first as friends and then it just happened. He was coming off of paxil at the time and blames that for some of his lack of judgement, I don't know what her excuse is. It's 6 months later and some days I don't even think about it and on other days it's all I can think of. Financially I could leave and stand on my own, but I don't know if I want that, I love my husband and I don't think this will happen again- but, I need to let it go because I am now driving a wedge between us because at least once a week I let him know what a sh*& he was for doing it. Can people actually truly ever get over something like this? Any advice is appreciated.
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