I found out in January that my wife had had kissed one of her work colleagues at the Christmas Party. Nothing happened physically after then, but they did see each other every day at work (we even went out for a drink twice with him and his wife) and they texted and emailed continuously over Christmas. The emails were very explicit in what they wanted to do to each other in bed, and they both declared their love for each other and descibed each other as soulmates. My wife also said that she was prepared to leave me for him, but he had to make a decision as to whether he would leave his wife. We had been trying for children at the time, and when this happened, my wife could have been pregnant (thankfully she was not). When I found out, which was after the affair had ended, my wife refused to break contact with him as he was 'such a good friend'. He has now left the company but I found out a few weeks ago that she was still texting him 5 or 6 times a day. When I confronted her on this she said that they were all friendship texts and she again refused to break contact but would limit her contact to 2 text conversations a week. However last week I found out that she was still texting him almost every day, the record was 22 texts in 5 hours! She said that the reason she was doing it was beacuse I was trying to control her and she felt smothered. The other man was the only person she could talk to about her feelings and the texts were all about her ranting to him and also her rebelling against my control, again she said that there is nothing going on between them, only friendship. If she truly loves me and wants the marriage to work as she says she does, why will she not break off all contact with him?
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