I had an affair which I just put a stop to on Monday, my H has known all along that i was seeing this co-worker. At first it seemed to start out harmless, just someone to talk to then it became much more emotionally and so on. The other man left his wife before anything ever got intense. He really wanted me to leave my H, promising that he will take care of me and my kids, that he will be a great man for me, the whole 9. I worked with him for close to 5 years and there was always a spark between us until 1 day I let my gaurd down and opened up to him. I would come home and tell my H what was said and he seemed to think it was a joke. He would say that he is not worried about it because the other guy has nothing to offer me an to go sleep with him. He also told m to invite him over if I wanted to spice things up. I was shocked as that was not a response I would expect from a H. So I continued to see the other guy. He makes me feel so good. He makes me feel wanted and beautiful and sexy. But I do know this is all wrong. I tried to stop seeing him twice but kept going back. then I would tell my H because I did not want to hide it and lie. I ended the affair on Monday and quit my job so that the temtation to see the other man on lunch break and after work will be taken out of the equation. I guess my question is, my H never wanted to know details. I guess it can be unsaid and assumed that this affair became more that just emotional but why wouldnt he want to know anything more? He refused to go to counciling as he said that the affiar was my problem and that if I wanted to go to counciling I should go alone to fix my screwup as he did nothing wrong. Do you think that it is too painful for him to go to counciling and actually talk about and listen to all parts of the affair? why I made such a bad choice and to try to make som sense of what happened? How can we go on and never speak of it again?
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