I am so sorry Kelly. I do not know that we get a guaretee of happiness on this planet. I do know that I would not want to be them, your stbx and his whore. They may look happy, but I have been told by people who took the low road and thought only of me, me, me, that it is not as grand as it may seem
Guilt, even repressed guilt takes a big peice of your self-esteem, leaving one's child, people grieve that forever, even if they deny it. I would not want to live in their skin.

I don't know if my husband is happy with the OW or not, but I guess he is since he keeps saying he's "in love" with her. Even though I'm trying to be the bigger person, I keep finding myself wishing unhappiness on them, and everyone keeps saying the same thing Nave said above me, that it's not all roses and wine like they want everyone to believe.

long story short-fell in love, was with him a long time, bought a house, 3mths later he was cheating, i kicked him out, house is now in foreclosure. i am a single mother (hes not the father) and now her and i have to hurry up and find a small apt to live in....meanwhile he and that whore have a new house and a brand new jeep. wtf.....but ya know what? what goes around comes around!! may seem like forever, just trust

What goes around may never come around my friends...at least not in this lifetime.

I know it seems nearly impossible, but once you heal and find your own inner happiness and become whole, it won't matter if they were named "couple of the year"...and you'll see them for what they really are;
miserable people.

-Jax

Instead of focusing on their suffering, why don't you focus on your healing..

I suggest working on your self image first.. Do some things for you and your daughter that will make you feel good. Stop focusing on "them" and what "they" are doing.

Let God, Karma or whatever/whomever you believe in, deal with that situation in your past. Move on.

I think they may look happy on the outside but are they truly happy? Would you want a relationship that started that way. Can you imagine living with the guilt of that? Can you imagine knowing that your whole relationship was built on a lie. I think originally they are happy because they are doing what they want and what feels good but what happens when it stops feeling good?

Take the time to heal yourself. Do whatever you need to do to get through the day and the days do get easier to get through. You will heal and this will just be a thing that happened in your life not your whole life. I know that it is hard, I am feeling it everyday but I am getting stronger and you will too.

Kelly, My heart goes out to you. I was thinking the exact same thing as I have been taking care of 3 sick children this weekend while hes out spending $ he doesnt have on the OW. But I do believe that God will reveal the truth.....take care of you and your daughter..God'll take care of them.