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Why, can't I get a divorce????

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Military wife, wanting a divorce, too many people in this marriage!!! Legal aid told me they won't help me unless he goes for the divorce first. Has anyone dealt with this before? Anyone hear of this, I's new to me!!! needing some advice please!!!
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Legal aid is mostly for the soldier, not you. It would be best for you to get a civillian lawer. That's what I'm doing!!!!
pianogirl
pianogirl
Look through your yellow pages. You should find some low-cost private legal options there. There are paralegals that offer to help you through paperwork and court filings at a much cheaper rate than lawyers, and some are affiliated with lawyers offices so they consult them only minimally.
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Get your own lawyer !!! Be sure to let your husband's C.O know EVERYTHING !!!
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I'm not in the military but have a good story. A close friend of my H's wife went into the military( national guard) at age 35 in 2001. She had an affair with a young soldier during boot camp. She came back just weeks before 9/11. They tried to work on their marriage but every-time she left for training the affair would start again. They separated in 2003 and started mediation. In 2004 she was sent to Iraq for a year. He could not get a divorce while she was gone or on active duty. He didn't get his divorce until 2005 and by then she was on boyfriend #3.
He remarried about 4 months ago. She is still playing the field. She lost her home and her family. Her kids didn't talk to her for years. He had to sell the home his parents had given them to pay her off.
I'm sorry, but as the victim of a cheater, I don't think the betrayed spouse should have to loose their family home. The poor man had to live in hell for 4 years. Funny my husband knew what damage this friend was facing and he still choose to cheat on me. Now I'm going through the same hell his friend went through. To bad the friend re-married days before I found out about the affair. I would have liked to have someone to talk to that has been through this nightmare.
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