If this seems a niave question-it's because I've never been at this place in my life before. A feeling emerged, deep & nagging, a month or so ago. In an attempt to rid myself of it (so many sounds in a house can be pin pointed to a logical reason, don't jump to being convinced of ghosts -I tell myself) I began paying attention & found things that have unsettled me. A condom in his work bag, long night walks, random trips to the store, guarded over his phone, missing money... I've asked him about it, he says no, when would he have time, why do I jump to the worst conclusions about him. I'm a little lost right now, trying to not jump to conclusions but unable to shake this feeling. We have two young boys. After five years of separation, we reunited two years ago.
My question is-did it bring you comfort to know the truth? Would it be better to not know? Someone told me that marriage is a trade off-we deal with certain things in exchange for security, stability for our children. I'm undecided on this. I'm not sure I can NOT dig for the truth, but I foresee the painful road this will lead down & the choices that will need to be made. How did you handle those first inklings?
* The fastest way to find something you lost is to replace it.* Whatever you are looking for it is always in the last place you looked.* Make your words short and sweet as one day you may have to eat them.* Don't piss off your hairdresser....EVER.* The fastest way to weed out stupid ppl is to stop putting warnings on items.........add your own logic's :)
I'm 5 months out from my breakup and I feel worse than I did in the beginning. The first month was terrible, then I started getting better. But suddenly over the past week, I've started crying again and I don't know why. I am still very much in love with my ex, and I do want to get back together with him, but he's made no effort and has told me he's moved on. I'm still so distruaght and...