When in this recovery/rebuilding process does it get better? It's been 2.5 months since D-Day and although there have been some good moments, every day I experience raw, unbearable anger and pain.
The whole thing seems unfair to me. We're both attending marriage counseling, but I'm also seeing an individual therapist. I'm learning how to relieve my stress, manage my anger, deal with the sadness and cope with the trauma my mind/body has experienced. All coping mechanisms to get through the day. But somehow I can't help but feel that its just ways to minimize my emotions so he doesn't have to deal with it. He's weathering the storm and is doing his part, but sometimes I feel like I'm putting in more work. I've had to adjust my train of thought and the way I process my feelings and retrain because he broke me.
In therapy, it comes back to the premise that something was missing in the relationship for him to stray. That statement alone makes me angry. Marriage isnt always a perfect romance. It can be dirty and ugly. There have been times that I was unhappy but ive never strayed. He says he needed more attention and intimacy. So we're supposed to work on that but I can't now, because I know he got it from someone else. I retract when I think of the betrayal and how he received his needs from her. I feel like 2nd fiddle, coming in after she gave him what he needed, and now it's my turn to carry on?
The biggest unfairness is that he got everything he wanted - he got to have his fun while ruining his wife and marriage. Yet he still has the wife at home. For now at least. In the end he got it all, and Im left with an empty, guarded, broken heart. It's just not fair. I honestly don't know what to do or how to get past this. I'm stuck.
Let me start off by saying that my kids (2 boys) are 100% not the reason for my depression. If anything, they are the only source of happiness I have in my life. My wife and I have been married 5 years and over the past 5 years I have lost my happiness. We got married because after being together for a year she became pregnant. It has been a roller coaster ever since. We are very good...
Hello all,This will sound very, very ignorant but...does a man's "package" matter in a long-sterm relationship as far as sex goes?I am Asian, and in my case, the stereotype is partially true. I'm short, with a gawky build and I measure below average in "size" down there.Its extremely discouraging, and really hurts my sense of confidence, but it is also because I've been watching too much...