Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Lets start by saying I have a drinking problem. The issue is that sometimes when I drink I drink to a point where I have no clue what I am doing or saying and remember nothing the next day. While this no longer will be a problem, its a precursor to my story. I understand my problem and have no intention of touching alcohol ever again as it has never brought anything good to my life in the first place.
I have been in a relationship for almost a year with a woman that I love very very much. I have no doubt that she is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. This weekend I was blackout drunk with some of my friends and ended up sleeping with someone. My girlfriend came over to my place and saw it happening. I have no feelings for the person I was sleeping with and have never questioned my feelings for my girlfriend. I still dont. What happened was not by choice and has no reflection on the relationship I was in. Everything about the relationship was perfect, absolutely perfect except for the fact that my girlfriend was having a hard time accepting being in a same-sex relationship. That was hard on me as I am openly gay. I want more than anything for my girlfriend to forgive me and give me a chance to prove that what happened was not my choice and that it in no way reflects how I feel for her or about us. She is so hurt and says that she can never trust or forgive me. In my opinion trust and forgiveness are choices and not something that exists or does not. You have to make a choice to trust someone and you have to make a choice to forgive someone I just dont know what it would take to get her to understand that she says she cant trust me ever again and that she cant forgive me I can understand if she doesnt WANT to but I think she does WANT to but thinks she cant She CAN trust me. I have never questioned my feelings for and have never had feelings like I have for her for anyone else. I dont want to and even if she does not forgive me, I will continue to feel the way I do about her. I just feel that this is a moment in time where both of us have an opportunity to grow and learn. There is no guarantee that someone else would not hurt her this way, but there is a guarantee that I will not hurt her ever again. She means the world to me does anyone have any advice on how to mend things so that we can move past this?
I have been in a relationship for almost a year with a woman that I love very very much. I have no doubt that she is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. This weekend I was blackout drunk with some of my friends and ended up sleeping with someone. My girlfriend came over to my place and saw it happening. I have no feelings for the person I was sleeping with and have never questioned my feelings for my girlfriend. I still dont. What happened was not by choice and has no reflection on the relationship I was in. Everything about the relationship was perfect, absolutely perfect except for the fact that my girlfriend was having a hard time accepting being in a same-sex relationship. That was hard on me as I am openly gay. I want more than anything for my girlfriend to forgive me and give me a chance to prove that what happened was not my choice and that it in no way reflects how I feel for her or about us. She is so hurt and says that she can never trust or forgive me. In my opinion trust and forgiveness are choices and not something that exists or does not. You have to make a choice to trust someone and you have to make a choice to forgive someone I just dont know what it would take to get her to understand that she says she cant trust me ever again and that she cant forgive me I can understand if she doesnt WANT to but I think she does WANT to but thinks she cant She CAN trust me. I have never questioned my feelings for and have never had feelings like I have for her for anyone else. I dont want to and even if she does not forgive me, I will continue to feel the way I do about her. I just feel that this is a moment in time where both of us have an opportunity to grow and learn. There is no guarantee that someone else would not hurt her this way, but there is a guarantee that I will not hurt her ever again. She means the world to me does anyone have any advice on how to mend things so that we can move past this?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I take complete responsibility for putting myself in the situation I was in and will never ever ever put myself in that kind of situation where I don't have control.
I know the pain I have inflicted upon my girlfriend and know that it will always be there in some ways for her. I know that it will be there whether she is with me or not. I also know that with leaving alcohol behind and staying true to myself I can give my girlfriend everything that she deserves and be the best partner. What we have (had) is something that does not happen everyday and the kind of connection that people are very lucky to find. It will be hard to forgive myself for what I have done to her even if she forgives me. It's something I will have to live with in my heart forever. I have never been more sorry for anything in my whole life. Never would I have chose to hurt the person that I love with all my heart this way... I just want to be there for her and help her through this and for us to be able to work through this together...
I do have a very good idea of what she is going through as I have been cheated on in past relationships. Both emotionally and physically cheated on. So YES, I do know what she is experiencing. I have given her space and am giving her time. SHE keeps contacting ME. She DOES ask my opinion and advice. I am NOT the one initiating contact. I understand very clearly what she is going through which is why I am handling things the way that I am.
I have been through A LOT of things in my life requiring forgiveness and giving trust back to others... which has taught me that when things happen it does take time to get over things but it's also VERY MUCH a choice.
So, basically, I just give her time and space, be supportive when she contacts me and be honest with my feelings...