Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Yesterday was my birthday. My H and the kids took me out to eat and everything was going great. He was acting almost like he used to. Until we got home.
Ke kept going out to the garage. So I got curious. I had a headach so I got some advil and then went to the garage door. Before I could even get the door open, he was there in front of it, holding it shut so I couldn't get out. He stood there and joked around for a little while, then he said something about me following him around again like a puppy. I just wanted to know what he was doing out htere that he couldn't let me see. (He used to like when I followed him outside, because that gave us a few minutes of alone time without the kids.)
Anyway, I got mad and told him to "excuse the hell out of me for wanting to be with my husband" and walked off. Didn't talk to him for the rest of the night. I felt like he had ripped my heart out and stomped on it.
Now I'm really wondering if he has a new cell phone. I have no idea how to find out if that's the case.
He texted me this morning and asked me how my day is going and told me that he loves me, blah, blah, blah. So I told him I am in a bad mood and still aggravated over last night. He then tells me that I am worrying too much.
Right now I'm so mad that I'm ready to say "F*** him!"
I can't seem to let all the hurt and anguish go. I'm hoping that the whole situation is still new and that's why it hurts so bad. I just can't figure out what to do next. I know I keep saying that, but it's true.
Ke kept going out to the garage. So I got curious. I had a headach so I got some advil and then went to the garage door. Before I could even get the door open, he was there in front of it, holding it shut so I couldn't get out. He stood there and joked around for a little while, then he said something about me following him around again like a puppy. I just wanted to know what he was doing out htere that he couldn't let me see. (He used to like when I followed him outside, because that gave us a few minutes of alone time without the kids.)
Anyway, I got mad and told him to "excuse the hell out of me for wanting to be with my husband" and walked off. Didn't talk to him for the rest of the night. I felt like he had ripped my heart out and stomped on it.
Now I'm really wondering if he has a new cell phone. I have no idea how to find out if that's the case.
He texted me this morning and asked me how my day is going and told me that he loves me, blah, blah, blah. So I told him I am in a bad mood and still aggravated over last night. He then tells me that I am worrying too much.
Right now I'm so mad that I'm ready to say "F*** him!"
I can't seem to let all the hurt and anguish go. I'm hoping that the whole situation is still new and that's why it hurts so bad. I just can't figure out what to do next. I know I keep saying that, but it's true.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Sounds like the garage is a SAFE place for him! why not invest in a recorder that is set to record when someone speaks? Relatievely inexpensive I would assume. Hide it, give him losts of space. If he is going to the garage, tell him you are taking a shower or a nap and turn the bathroom light on or shower or whatever. Make him feel safe.
You might want to buy 2 recorders and hide one in his car or other place he is often alone.
What he is doing sounds like he is up to something, find out, confront him with his own words and tell him, as I have told my husband, I WILL ALWAYS FIND OUT! I actually am very intuitive and have guessed or put together a lot more info than my husband thinks is possible, unless, I AM PSYCHIC!
If you catch him at something and you are not ready to leave, TIGHTEN the leash. Ok, now you may not go anywhere except work, AA, therapy etc and you must bring some proof of where you have been. No freedoms, he must call often (you decide), maybe a new phone that videotapes, so he can show you the room he is in when he calls? All of these demands must be followed up by consequences. DO NOT MAKE THREATS YOU WILL NOT KEEP! You do not have to threaten to leave, there are lots of things we do for them that thney take for granted, take them away, one at a time. Sell something he wants (or hide it) that you BOTH OWN.
Speak to a lawyer and tell H what the lawyer thinks you will get but do not employ the lawyer yet. Fight the good fight.
Good Luck.
PS I never used to be this devious!
*******lots of hugs and support whatever you decide********