I learned of my husbands affair about 9 months ago and before i found out my very close friend had recently found out her "baby's daddy" and his wife were back together. they had slept together once and he told her he and his wife were seperated. he only started coming around their son after a DNA test was done and he was proven to be this kids dad(the baby was 9 months old when he got the results). well since than my friend has once again had a baby with him (6 weeks ago), the wife learned of the first child but does not know about this second one. she is being the best stepmother one can be to the oldest of the two, and she has gone above and beyond for this kid. anyway i get on my friend everyday about telling this woman that she has baby number two with her husband. my friend is very ashamed of herself and is dealing with a lot of guilt(as she should be). "baby daddy" says he is not ready to deal with this yet(baby 2)and i tell her she is crazy because she goes to bed and wakes up dealing with it. i have begged her to tell his wife, and made it clear that as the wife who is in this same situation, i would rather have heard it from the horses mouth than to find out the way i did. i told her that i would go with her, she says she is not afraid to tell his wife but i can not understand why she hasn't. i just want to kick her ass for doing this to this woman, it was bad enough to make the first mistake but she turns around and does the same thing again, but this time knowing they were back together. my friend is so desperate for someone to love her but she does not even love herself, and now her kids are the ones suffering. should i tell his wife, send her an anonoymous letter, what should i do. i feel like the "caped crusader" and my mission is to stop all cheaters. i just don't want anyone to feel like i have and i would love to keep anyone from going thru what i have. i would love to know what you would do?
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