Okay, I have a question... as details are coming out and I am putting all the pieces together there are some things that I can't let go of. When he was with me, he would sneak away to call her (says he didn't want her questioning where he was/who he was with- she had no idea about me) he even was calling her when we were on "date night". But yet the times he was with her- he turned his phone off, left it in the car, didn't call me. Why not worry about me questioning him? Why, because he knew that he could tell me some lie and the "dumb" wife would believe every one! He says he wanted to end the relationship with her but couldn't (he didn't want to hurt her, etc). So why work so hard to maintain a relationship with her? I know the answer- I know what he struggles with (boundaries, self esteem, people pleasing). But I just want to scream at him sometimes! Am I focusing too much on the little things? What things should I let go?
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