I've wondered the same thing. I'm thinking there has probably been no magic pick up line. With those sort of women/men, it doesn't matter. And of course our spouses no doubt had to pour on a sob story about how unhappy they were, how we neglected their needs, how it was a loveless marriage or in name only, etc.. People believe what they want to beleive and sadly I think the liar begins to believe it as well. Their affairs are usually built on lies.

I have had one or two married men try it on with me...(go to a heavily male-populated folk club)
"I am visiting this town, got a hotel across the road. Bit lonely, wife doesn't seem to care....if you're not doing anything after you've sung, you could come back for coffee....."(Get lost creep).

Or

"Single man makes friend of woman. Gets to know her, about her family, her disintegrating marriage, her difficulties, and gets to find out she is contemplating divorce. This takes 4 months. He gradually becomes a friend. Only after 4 months, when she has terminated her relationship with her husband, and the relationship is formed does he let slip he has a wife....and lives at home with her....but NO NO NO does not have sex with her - poor little him, he has been denyed for several years. Is friendship only....."
(All lies - the marriage was a normally efficient one in the sex dept) (slimy git, get lost or I'll come round to your house innocently when only your wife is in and be surprised she exists, and make her very surprised I exist)

Or

"I am your friend, I have fallen in love with you, I cannot help myself...I am fighting this, but I cannot win. ... I cannot do this because it will hurt my wife, but I cannot deny my feelings for you either - just one kiss and hug..."(Shove off traitor - stick your mandolin where the sun don't shine)

such a nice set of innocent little bastards.....

My H said his A started when the ow heard him talking to a male co worker about a porno he had. She was interested and so my low down H brought a portable dvd player to work and they watched some of it in the parking lot. Things went from there. He just admitted this to me lastnight. I can remember finding it in his car and yelling at him but had no idea what was going on. I remember the day vividly so now I have more of a time line on when it started/ended. Hell of a way to start an A. And damn that ho was easy!! I asked him if he gave her compliments and told her she looked nice and he cant remember, thats code for LIE!! Guess its not the how or why but the fact that they did it!!

I have wondered that too...I have also wondered what kind of person would sleep with a married woman, knowing she has kids at home,,,how can it not bother someone to be a part of destroying a family?

I was the one doing the picking up when I chose to cheat. I met the guy in a store. He was working there. I saw him for months before approaching him. I asked him about an item and he helped me. That's how I got his name. I got in my car and called him at work a few minutes later with my cell phone and arranged to meet.

I was a terrible person back then and I do regret what I did and have moved on. I did a bad thing. He also lied to me the whole time I knew him, told me he was separated from his wife, hated her, she beat him all the time and so he was an abused husband, etc. etc. I gave him loads of money and got used. I deserved the treatment he gave me. It totally opened my eyes to how sick people can be and how bad the world really is. I was very thankful I had a great husband in my life that forgave me and wouldn't leave me for anything in the world.

I think we all all pondered about this before. All I know is that there is a new script for every variation for people that cheat:

Pick-up line: Here is my phone number, call me sometime
Cheater's version: Here is my phone number, do not call during meals or at bedtime, in fact maybe I should just just call you

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Pick-up line: You are the most beautiful woman / man I have ever seen
Cheater's version: You are the most beautiful man / woman I have ever seen - other than the fact that I have another one at home, of course, but whatever

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Pick-up line: Let's be together all the time
Cheater's version: I hope that you are looking for part-time as opposed to full-time...

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Pick-up line: What is a girl / guy like you doing in a place like this?
Cheater's version: Did anybody recognize us here?

You jst got to read between the lines. Romantic, isn't it?

love it garrison!!!! How true!

Well first I think you have to consider the type of women... most of them are pretty needy and looking for attention anywhere they can get it. So when any man (married or not) is nice to them, they attach. Then when a married man tells them how unhappy their marriage is... wife doesn't understand me, doesn't support me, only interested in the kids, etc... boom they, the OW, convince themselves that they can make him happy. Not that in anyway am I even coming close to saying its okay, but I guess in their own sick way they are looking to be loved just like we are!

Mine began with coffee and the newspaper every morning. We used to read the paper together every morning, He was working out of town, in a small resort town about a hundred miles away. She was a very friendly local. He told about the moment he knew they were more than friedns, because I asked. I could not understand, how they could get so close so fast.

He was telling her that he was going home for the weekend and was concerned that she might be jealous! Concerned that SHE might be jealous!! She smiled and said, "Have a wonderful time with your wife!". Isnt that just the sweetest thing you ever heard? She gave him permission to enjoy me! If that dont beat all! He felt as if she was a very accepting and not sterotypically jealous woman. What a find! Tears me to shreds, my feelings were completely irrelevant.

I dont know what the pick up line is but I do know that in my case she came looking for him, married with a daughter and a baby on the way....she then kept an eye on my myspace page because it made her feel a rush....It's really disgusting how low these women's self esteems are that they have to see if they can take a weak man from his family....A friend said something very wise to me and kinda funny at the same time.....Ho's are like fleas....they are ALWAYS attracted to dogs...

its sad but it seems like some of these whores see a man with a ring on his left hand, ring finger and they pounce on them. i have been thinking alot about this and i think they assume that if a man is married that he may be looking for some outside excitment and they know that the man will give them most of what they ask for because they don't want their wives to find out. screw what the affair does to his wife and kids.

so i think in some situations there does not have to be a line just him being married is the key to get her out of her clothes. she thinks she can use him, but in most cases she is the one who gets used and played, because he goes home to his wife.

Malise, you slay me. ;) The guy who got my wife was a really caring, sensitive, "Christian" fellow, of course married, of course unhappily, and he spent his spare time on Second Life, where he got to know my wife intimately. Over the course of months the cybersex turned to real encounters. I even read one of his emails to her stating how their clandestine feelings for each other and infrequent liaisons were like " a novel written in another time, waiting to be read"....Give me a f***ing break. I told my wife a guy would say anything for a blowjob.

I can say my wife cheated on me because I was always working and not emotionaly available, the man she was with was a friend and a neighbor who was also involved with another women and they had a kid together.

I also know that one of the aspects of cheating for me was that I spent more time with the other women at work, that we had built a relationship on that, she even went on to call herself my work wife.

now cheating is not good for any reason, and we have celegrated 6 years of marriage and neither one has cheated, but it is not always about picking ppl up for affairs but sometimes you are to involved in your daily lives that you loose focus on the important things in your life.