
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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What if it is just texting??
I don't know that he has actually cheated. All I have are the number of text messages.
I broke down and went to see a counselor last night and told her everything that is going on in my life right now. She was very helpful and told me some things that I needed to hear. I do have a lot of stressful things happening at work and that has triggered me to stop eating. Then I have all of this shit with my homelife.
I just don't know if I am strong enough to face all of this with my H right now. I told him this morning that I had to go talk to someone yesterday and he acted like he couldn't believe that I couldn't talk to him. I'm trying to be strong, but he says he loves me and will stick by me no matter what and that tears me up even more. He still won't admit to anything. And has not acutally gotten mad, more like disappointed.
I'm afraid if I bring the cell phone records up to him again, he will just say that I'm being a paranoid bitch.
I don't want to sound that way. But I want him to tell me himself.
This sounds pretty stupid. But I don't know what to do next, whether to sit and wait or bring up the cell phone again, or what.
I don't know that he has actually cheated. All I have are the number of text messages.
I broke down and went to see a counselor last night and told her everything that is going on in my life right now. She was very helpful and told me some things that I needed to hear. I do have a lot of stressful things happening at work and that has triggered me to stop eating. Then I have all of this shit with my homelife.
I just don't know if I am strong enough to face all of this with my H right now. I told him this morning that I had to go talk to someone yesterday and he acted like he couldn't believe that I couldn't talk to him. I'm trying to be strong, but he says he loves me and will stick by me no matter what and that tears me up even more. He still won't admit to anything. And has not acutally gotten mad, more like disappointed.
I'm afraid if I bring the cell phone records up to him again, he will just say that I'm being a paranoid bitch.
I don't want to sound that way. But I want him to tell me himself.
This sounds pretty stupid. But I don't know what to do next, whether to sit and wait or bring up the cell phone again, or what.
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I understand about the stress bringing on eating disorder symptoms....my daughter is recovering from a serious eating disorder...and I know that is your way of dealing with stress.. but you know that it is NOT a healthy way of dealing with things....I'm sorry that you have to deal with this stuff from your husband..What did the text messages say? do you know? and who were they to? a co-worker?
don't bring anything up to him yet...what did you find on the cell phone?
he is obviously planning on stonewalling you....he is unfortunately forcing you to be a detective...but,you probably have to do that to give yourself some answers....
Then six weeks later, after still investigating and trying to figure out why he was clicking off the computer when I walked in, and carrying his cell phone with him everywhere, and trying to figure out what was going on in his head, I overheard him say, "miss you, too" to someone and when I asked him about it, he said, no, I didn't say that, I said so and so, and told me it was a guy he was talking to. I wanted to believe it so bad because he was so sincere and told me he would never cheat, etc. I feel like a total idiot now, but it was just a defense mechinism, I think. My heart didn't want to really know the truth, but my brain was telling me I really knew.
The next week, I called him (while he was out of town with her) and confronted him and he cried and begged me not to divorce him. You know what? An hour later he called back and told me he didn't sleep with her, just talked to her, and I tried to make myself believe it for another six weeks! Twelve weeks of losing weight, not eating, not sleeping, and him lying, most impressively, the whole time.
Even if it is just texts, honey, it's still cheating. He is giving his time and attention to another woman. I agree with adrienne. Get someone to find out for sure for you before you go through this for three months like I did and almost drive yourself crazy. I don't want you to be miserable that long. Get hard proof, and then decide what the next step is. I wish to God I would have found this site or snoopbuddy or hired a detective or something while I was going through my torture. I know you don't want to believe it, but you know in your heart, don't you? God bless. I'm soooo sorry you're going through this.
My husband was "just IMing." I'm sure it started innocently but it sure as hell mutated to something that drove me here. I asked my H several times what was up; he denied everything. It was only when I read him an e-mail I found open on his computer did he fess. If he's not fessing willingly you'll be forced to find proof.
I would see if you could possibly get a copy of all of his text messages from the phone company or at least find out how. You may need his SSN to make this work. Also, see if he calls a particular number often especially if your not around... Good luck-