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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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What if all that is going on is texting and calling?
He keeps telling me that he loves me and will always be by my side no matter what. He doesn't even get mad, just acts hurt.
I actually broke down and went to see a counselor yesterday and told her everything that is going on in my life right now.
She helped me to see some things. But I still have my doubts that I'm not strong enough to deal with all of this.
I feel like no matter what I say to him, he will stick to his story and not change. Then I will be made out to be the paranoid bitch.
I don't know whether to bring up the cell phone texts again, or not. Because he is still texting her and only calls once a day.
I feel like my life is crumbling around me!
He keeps telling me that he loves me and will always be by my side no matter what. He doesn't even get mad, just acts hurt.
I actually broke down and went to see a counselor yesterday and told her everything that is going on in my life right now.
She helped me to see some things. But I still have my doubts that I'm not strong enough to deal with all of this.
I feel like no matter what I say to him, he will stick to his story and not change. Then I will be made out to be the paranoid bitch.
I don't know whether to bring up the cell phone texts again, or not. Because he is still texting her and only calls once a day.
I feel like my life is crumbling around me!
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A man with motive, and a hidden agenda, that he's not telling you about. He needs to decide what's more important to him, you or his little side fling. And you need to decide how much you are willing to take.
Don't talk to him until you have a plan....because if part of your plan is trying to find out the truth about what is going on...then the less information he has the better.... do you have any idea of who the woman is? Is she a co-worker/ friend?
Does he stay away from home or go out after work? Would you consider following him? or have someone follow him after work to see where he goes? you should be able to get 6 months of back cell phone records... is there a pattern to the calls,texts? is it at a certain time of day-as if they are making plans?how long has this been going on as far as you know?
if you know who the OW is-do you know if she is married or in a relationship? I would contact her husband...and ask him what he knows...you could get alot of info that way...
The problem is-your husband is not admitting to anything...he sounds like he won't until you confront him with hard evidence-copies of emails, text measages , cell phone bills etc. He will try to make you the crazy one-there's even a word for that-its called gaslighting-after an old movie-called gaslight where the husband was cheating and wanted to drive his wife crazy so he could get the $$$.....
you can message me anytime....I hate to say it but after 10 months of this I feel like an expert on the subject- great- my new major is affairs 101!
But, counseling is great....as well as talking to people on DS.
You need information to know where you stand...and then a plan.
First off, you said what if it is only texting and calling? Isn't that enough? Does that make it easier for you? Probably not. Plus, and I hate to be the cynic here, but quite often where there is smoke, there is fire.
He will be by your side no matter what? A cop-out to excuse the fact that he is still in contact with the other. You need to give him the opportunity to back up his words by telling him to let the contact with the other die NOW.
The other thing that bothers me is when you said that him not being truthful makes you feel like you are the paranoid one. It bothers me that you are falling for the same trap that many of us have fallen for already. It upsets me to know that yet another person out there is made to feel guilty or question themselves in a situation like this - and that is bullcrap!
You say that there is contact "only" through texts and one call a day. The word "only" is put there by yourself and your bad feelings and I am sorry, has no weight behing that word. "Only" may imply once or twice, but that is one or two times too much.
And I hate to be the cynic again, but the "one" call may be just the one that you know about...
This guy needs to get his head out of his @$$. He is taking advantage of you and you are too nice about the situation.
If he really cares about you and will be there for you no matter what, then there is one way to find out for real. Tell him to cut her out entirely ASAP.
Whether he will be honest or not, whatever he decides, you owe it to yourself to call him on it. He is jerking you around, and it sounds like it is putting you through agony. I have a strong suspicion that you are better than that.
Call him on it. Tell him to make the right choice.
Good luck...
You are NOT crazy or paranoid, you are a wife and entitled to have a husband who does not talk to other women. Do not allow yourself to feel that you are wrong. Good luck...
WTF is that? He should not be calling any other women, except you, "once a day"
When I first found out that my H was calling his OW, I thought nothing of it. We were all friends...
Ya, I thought nothing of it.. all these years later... all theses years of begging him to stop "TALKING and TEXTING" her...
I know there was MORE to this than he wants to admit.
My H says "loves" me too, but continues to "talk" to her...ok.
If you feel betrayed, If you feel that there are secrets between them, If you feel that they share something that you are not part of..then he has cheated.
Maybe not physically, but emotionally.
Dont forget, YOU are supposed to be the most important person in his life!
Bring it up, if it is bothering you. Communication is the key, and sometimes men are not so good about that.