My husband had a long term affair with a married woman at work. I confronted him. He said he loved me and wanted to stay married to me. I thought the affair was over, but as it turned out, they just got sneakier.
I was on to his tricks the second time around and confronted him again. Only this time I told him it was over between us unless he met some conditions. He did as I asked. He went to a therapist. I thought we made it.
One of the things I noticed was that before he saw this tramp, he would look at porn on his computer. It became valuable to me because it was a way I could check up on him. After all the drama the second time around, he told me he "stopped all that", meaning the porn. Well, I haven't checked up on him in a while. I was feeling good that things are good, but I have been duped before.
I guess it will come as no suprise that I found porn again. And it's even more graphic than before. He logs onto these cameras that women have set up in their room. I couldn't watch. My stomach is in a knot.
I don't want to be reading more into this than necessary. But if he is cheating again, I obviously want to know. I do ask him from time to time if he's being good, when was the last time he saw the tramp. I know he can lie. But if he does, he knows he is digging his own grave.
I have been married for 40 years, do I need to add that? Please do not jump all over me and tell me how naive I am. I can tell you I have felt pretty dumb because I missed so many signs the first time around. You love someone, you trust them, you build a life together. I was so blindsighted. I ignored things and explained them away with logical reasons. I don't want to be doing that again.
My eyes have been opened. I know now that he is capable of deceipt. Is he cheating again or just looking at porn?
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