On Christmas Eve, I caught my husband having an affair. Through the calls and text messages from her on his phone. To make matter worse, she is pregnant. I am so lost right now. Here is a little background about us. He works for the Gov't. When we moved things were great. Then I got pregnant. I was very sick for the first 5 months and didn't want to be touched let alone anything else. By the time I was better, he had already started chatting on the internet and looking at porn. I let the first few times go, pretending that it wasnt really happening. Then I started to call him on it and he kept denying it. We tried counseling but he didn't want it so it didnt help. After our son was born, things we OK. I went to visit family with my son for a week. I extended my stay due to my husbands work schedule. Then, while I was here my son got a brain tumor and he had to have major surgery. My husband came out for the surgery but had to go home. While I was here taking care of my son, my husband had an affair. The girl is now 10 weeks pregnant. She has started with the games.. she is pregnant, than she isn't. Now she is opting for an abortion (which I am kind of hoping she does). My questions are: I want to be with my husband, so I told him he has to get therapy (cheating, lying, anger) and then we have to get marriage counseling. But where do I start right now. I am going out with my son to see him the end of this month and I just don't know what to do. And if she keeps this baby, I have no idea what to do. I don't know how long it would take me to adjust and accept this? If anyone has been in this situation please advise me to a path. Thank You!
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