
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Folks - a little background. Married 16 yrs, 2 children. Caught the wife texting OM 7 mo ago, then found out about a previous 2-yr affair with a different OM. She admitted only what she knew I had proof of, and claims that she loves me and wants to work it out. Have tried to tell her what I need to know about what happened but she never wants to talk about it. Since then, she obviously doesn't feel the way she used to for me...does none of the small gestures that let me know she cares, and not doing other things she used to do. I don't think she's fooling around still, but at what point do I pull the plug on this thing? There is no point in continuing unless we're both in it 100%. I know this facade will only get worse. Anyone in the same situation? Thanks - I appreciate all the comments/ideas that are shared in these discussions.
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Maybe she's having some deeper issues that she's afraid to admit to you because of you leaving her.
I know from my experience of lying to my wife about being SA, not wanting to talk about it usually means there's more to the story, embarrasment, and shame involved.
I think she's afraid that if she does the "little gestures" again, your not going to like it the way you use to.
Keep pursuing her to talk to you, about everything, not just the text messages to OM, everything going in her life, sooner or later she's going to talk to you.
Take her out to a nice dinner, just the two of you, and talk.
I've learned the hard way that communication is the best therapy.
Hope I helped in some small way.
You are not alone, but this conversation will take a lot of strength.
Are you still in marriage counseling? Perhaps you can enlist their help in getting her to communicate more to you about what you need to know.
Other couples have tried the "fish bowl" technique where you write down all your questions, and then once or twice a week she has to pull one out and answer it. If it is too painful that day, put it back in and choose another, but eventually, all will need to be answered.
Do you have a way to check up on her and find out if she might still be cheating on you?
Sent a hug to someone and all it read was : Whore
This is suppose to be a supportive community.
If you don't have anything constructive or good to say .. then don't say anything.
That was a very hurtful thing you did to a really nice person.
fixation sent a rude and uncalled hug to a mate of mine in the Divorce and Break Up Community. One simple word can injure.. keep that in mind.
again Flyboy.. I am sorry.. the comment was meant to be to fixation and not you. In my anger I too was guilty of using my words in a wrong way...misdirection in this case.
But sorry, not sure who the person you are referring to.