Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My hubby was supposed to have went fishing on Saturday night. Come to find out he was at the OW home. A friend of mine followed him and told me where he was. Then called him from a cell with the number blocked and told him that he needed to get home to his family.Then called my cell and left me a message with the address that he was at. He automatically assumed that I was the one that did the call.
If anyone has read my other posts in advice, you'll know what started all of this. Anyway, the OW and the guy (his buddy) whose house that he was at are evidently brother and sister.
I finally asked my H this morning if he was at the "friend's" house, he said he had no idea what I was talking about. I showed him a paper that I had printed out with the address on it (reverse address look up).
I also told him that I went by the address on Saturday and that a truck that looked an awful lot like his was there. He said he wasn't there on Saturday and that he was fishing. That there were a lot of trucks that look like his.
Then I asked him why he keeps his cell phone with him at all times, that I noticed that over the weekend. He said its because I followed him around all the time. That I could have the phone tonight.
I told him that I just wanted to know if he was there instead of fishing and why he lied if he was.
He said that he was fishing and that it looked like my mind was already made up and I could believe what I wanted. He also said to tell my little friend that he has her name and address. I still told him I had nothing to do with that.
He didn't really get mad or anything, just kissed me and said he was going to work.
I'm afraid that I have totally screwed everything up. I'm scared that I'm going to loose him and I don't want to because I love him so much. I'm really hurt that he has lied to me and can't tell me the truth.
I just don't know what to do. I need someone to talk to other than my friend who says that I should just leave him.
Sorry that this is so long. But it seems that this is the only place I can really let everthing out.
If anyone has read my other posts in advice, you'll know what started all of this. Anyway, the OW and the guy (his buddy) whose house that he was at are evidently brother and sister.
I finally asked my H this morning if he was at the "friend's" house, he said he had no idea what I was talking about. I showed him a paper that I had printed out with the address on it (reverse address look up).
I also told him that I went by the address on Saturday and that a truck that looked an awful lot like his was there. He said he wasn't there on Saturday and that he was fishing. That there were a lot of trucks that look like his.
Then I asked him why he keeps his cell phone with him at all times, that I noticed that over the weekend. He said its because I followed him around all the time. That I could have the phone tonight.
I told him that I just wanted to know if he was there instead of fishing and why he lied if he was.
He said that he was fishing and that it looked like my mind was already made up and I could believe what I wanted. He also said to tell my little friend that he has her name and address. I still told him I had nothing to do with that.
He didn't really get mad or anything, just kissed me and said he was going to work.
I'm afraid that I have totally screwed everything up. I'm scared that I'm going to loose him and I don't want to because I love him so much. I'm really hurt that he has lied to me and can't tell me the truth.
I just don't know what to do. I need someone to talk to other than my friend who says that I should just leave him.
Sorry that this is so long. But it seems that this is the only place I can really let everthing out.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
you have to say when you have enough and tell him its either her or you because until you do he is going to continue to be with you both...
he obviously doesn`t love you like you love him, please decide what you want and not what he wants... YOU are the important one now not him ...
My husband looked straight into my eyes with tears in his eyes and swore to God he didn't have sex with the OW. He acted so hurt that I didn't believe him and trust him. This went on for six weeks after I found out he had been "talking" to another woman for five months. We, as women, want so bad to believe that our husbands wouldn't do something like that that we become irrational ourselves. A jury would have convicted my husband beyond any doubt had it been a trial, but I still couldn't accept it, I think, because I knew I couldn't handle the truth. You are in a vulnerable position. But you have to make a stand. He has to know that you CAN live without him. And you know what? You can.
If he's not wanting to leave you, he probably still has feelings for you. Why else would he stay. But he wants his cake and eat it too, and you have to be the one to take a stand. Show him the hard proof, make him admit it, have him make a choice, and then make a decision. I was scared, too, that he would choose the OW, but he didn't, and now things are better than ever. But you can't be a doormat or you won't even be able to respect yourself. God bless.
Maybe you should put some sort of surprise in his tackle box, or maybe take out all the hooks and lures. See how long it takes him to notice next time he goes "fishing". Good luck sweetheart. You don't deserve this. (((Hugs)))